The Kilkenny Tickle
SharePosted on 19. Jan, 2007 by Gallivanter in Thoughts
I had a couple of Kilkenny pints last Sunday at The Social, with fellow blogging buddies endroo and tihtahpah, together with a bunch of my Irish colleagues in Bangsar. Tihtahpah asked my thoughts on the process of flirting. So here it goes:
I believe the art of flirting simply implies a frivolous communication that makes daily interactions more thrilling. 
Nothing is invested, because there are no feelings involved. But boundaries have to be set, as it may go beyond hyperbolic levels. If it’s not in your nature to flirt, then please don’t, as what you construe as inoffensive may freak people out. And no biting please. 
I flirt on an innocuous level but with some unspoken boundaries to maintain a friendly spirit. And with selected women only, women who know how to flirt back without throwing feelings into the frying pan. It’s significant to acknowledge the true nature of flirting. If there’s any hint of a one-sided or inappropriate fondness developing, then one should stop the flirtation process with that person before it becomes unmanageable, and ultimately, breaking the friendship. 
Your thoughts?
hongkiat
Jan 19th, 2007
You didn’t invite me
tihtahpah
Jan 19th, 2007
yo dan…drinking with you was fun man! i wonder if our ‘frens’ hit it off?
. And i agree that you gotta choose the fellas carefully…or else it might be a flirt-gone-bad.
I do believe flirting is an art that requires much skill and practise even…the idea is not to READ TOO much into anything or else it just takes the fun out of flirting
Jen
Jan 19th, 2007
Flirting makes the world go round. And yeap, choosing the right person to flirt with can be disgustingly fun. Especially if said person is as good a flirter as you are
Larawannabe
Jan 19th, 2007
flirting is FUN. it’s like playing with fire for me tho, coz u know, i’m married. teehee.
JACQ
Jan 19th, 2007
You couldn’t have said it better.
Gallivanter
Jan 19th, 2007
hongkiat Didn’t realize, next time I will. But make sure you answer your crappy mobile phone!
tihtahpah I had a good time drinking with you and endroo too. And especially the Kilkenny Tickle.
Well, flirting to me is a natural process that needs fine-tuning so it doesn’t go awry.
Jen Me a good flirter? LOL. You haven’t tried me yet.
Larawannabe Marriage takes away a lot of fun in return with “different” fun, but as long as you’re happy, then I’m happy.
JACQ Yes yes, and that’s what I shall be doing when I come a knocking to KK in May if it doesn’t clash w my exam dates. Let’s meet then, shall we? Don’t worry, I won’t flirt on you cause you’re taken.
ShaolinTiger
Jan 19th, 2007
Goddamn another snap.com user.
Che-Cheh
Jan 19th, 2007
You already said what I want to say..chewah
Rauff
Jan 19th, 2007
Its easier said than done. Usually we won’t know when the other party throws in emotions into it until it’s too late. But I must say it’s a thrilling thing….some you can connect intellectually while others you might need to do “I need to go to the washroom for a bit, excuse me” and promptly find the door that says exit.
Rudy
Jan 19th, 2007
Has anyone seen Casino Royale? I like the flirt scene between Bond and…damn I can’t remember her name…on the train.
I think with flirting, less is always more and timing is imperative. The more you are able to master knowing how much and when then the flirting becomes more fun.which also catches the attention of the receiver. Light teasing? Innuendos? How did you say it? What words did you use? Does the receiver understand flirting? I think flirting reflects the level of EQ and IQ.
I also think flirting should be maintained in a marriage or long term relationship. Have you ever wondered why in the beginning flirting is so easy then as two people stay together for a long time it dwindles? How can flirting be maintained for people who have been together for awhile?
Hmmmmmmmmm
Gallivanter
Jan 19th, 2007
ShaolinTiger Amen!
Che-Cheh I did? Yes yes, last night u came in my dreams as Chester.
Rauff Indeed Rauff. And thanks for dropping by!
Rudy Casino Royale was DA BOMB! Pure testosterone and none of that gayness portrayed by previous Bonds.
I agree, timing is crucial and also the other party’s openness. 
Don’t think flirting can be maintained for people who have been together for a while, that’s where they just rely on love and commitment. Zestless. 
Rudy
Jan 20th, 2007
I think that effort should exerted to keep the flirting going in a long term relationship. It’s probably challenging but will keep the relationship spicy.
Why should the spice go down just because of time?
Sha
Jan 20th, 2007
I agree with you. Flirting is just adding a little bit of fun to a conversation or interaction, as long as it doesn’t get out of hand and ruin friendships, marriages or relationships