Comments on: The Better Listener http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/the-better-listener/ Mon, 09 Jan 2012 01:49:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Olie http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/the-better-listener/comment-page-1/#comment-20253 Olie Mon, 21 May 2007 02:58:37 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/03/22/the-better-listener/#comment-20253 it is said 'men tends to listen like walls' althou listening but they aren't giving any indication that they're listening. Women likes to express themselves but the mistakes men made is giving her the solutions to her problem instead of just understanding the fact that she only wants to be heard and not to be offered advises on how to solve it. its true, you don't have to always agree on what she's saying, just understanding her feelings and giving empathy is all women needs. what she's saying is what she's going through and NO she is not blaming you for why she is feeling upset. She's just geram & tak puas hati on some issues and just wanna spilled it out. So all you gotta do is listen and please don't offer her advise, trust me, she'll be fuming mad! it is said ‘men tends to listen like walls’ althou listening but they aren’t giving any indication that they’re listening. Women likes to express themselves but the mistakes men made is giving her the solutions to her problem instead of just understanding the fact that she only wants to be heard and not to be offered advises on how to solve it. its true, you don’t have to always agree on what she’s saying, just understanding her feelings and giving empathy is all women needs. what she’s saying is what she’s going through and NO she is not blaming you for why she is feeling upset. She’s just geram & tak puas hati on some issues and just wanna spilled it out. So all you gotta do is listen and please don’t offer her advise, trust me, she’ll be fuming mad!

]]> By: Gallivanter http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/the-better-listener/comment-page-1/#comment-13313 Gallivanter Thu, 22 Mar 2007 15:52:31 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/03/22/the-better-listener/#comment-13313 <i>tihtahpah</i> Well, I believe, ultimately, it's the same for all. Men need to listen. <i>huei</i> Different needs yes, but I'm talking about needs. I'm talking about the men listening to women. :-P <i>Jackie</i> *CLAP CLAP CLAP* Well said Jackie. :-) If only compromising was that easy. LOL. <i>BrokenStarfish</i> Well, it's a lifelong learning process... ;-) <i>Sha</i> That's usually the case for men, sometimes, we need to find that out for ourselves. :-D <i>endroo G</i> Then they will lead a happy life. Hahahaha! tihtahpah Well, I believe, ultimately, it’s the same for all. Men need to listen.

huei Different needs yes, but I’m talking about needs. I’m talking about the men listening to women. :-P

Jackie *CLAP CLAP CLAP* Well said Jackie. :-) If only compromising was that easy. LOL.

BrokenStarfish Well, it’s a lifelong learning process… ;-)

Sha That’s usually the case for men, sometimes, we need to find that out for ourselves. :-D

endroo G Then they will lead a happy life. Hahahaha!

]]> By: endroo G http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/the-better-listener/comment-page-1/#comment-13276 endroo G Thu, 22 Mar 2007 04:13:06 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/03/22/the-better-listener/#comment-13276 what if we men dont ask much questions? what if we men dont ask much questions?

]]> By: Sha http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/the-better-listener/comment-page-1/#comment-13263 Sha Thu, 22 Mar 2007 02:42:03 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/03/22/the-better-listener/#comment-13263 I've learnt that everytime I tell him something and he doesn't believe me, it will turn true. Hoho. I’ve learnt that everytime I tell him something and he doesn’t believe me, it will turn true. Hoho.

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]]> By: Jackie http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/the-better-listener/comment-page-1/#comment-13248 Jackie Thu, 22 Mar 2007 01:39:56 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/03/22/the-better-listener/#comment-13248 Wah, spot on! I'm not the most talkative of women, in fact quite the opposite, but when I do it's rarely to seek advise but for someone to listen and emphatise. Women friends are able to do this intuitively but men automatically see a problem and swiftly propose solutions like some knight to the rescue. Neither approach is right or wrong, I can certainly see the benefit of logical solutions and not meandering about, but women sometimes just like to take the long route to come to a conclusion. I guess as long as both parties learn to compromise (the men shut up for a little while and practise nodding, and the women curtail the impulse to whine extendedly) then we should be able to get along famously don't you think? :p Wah, spot on!

I’m not the most talkative of women, in fact quite the opposite, but when I do it’s rarely to seek advise but for someone to listen and emphatise. Women friends are able to do this intuitively but men automatically see a problem and swiftly propose solutions like some knight to the rescue.

Neither approach is right or wrong, I can certainly see the benefit of logical solutions and not meandering about, but women sometimes just like to take the long route to come to a conclusion.

I guess as long as both parties learn to compromise (the men shut up for a little while and practise nodding, and the women curtail the impulse to whine extendedly) then we should be able to get along famously don’t you think? :p

]]> By: huei http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/the-better-listener/comment-page-1/#comment-13246 huei Thu, 22 Mar 2007 01:35:53 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/03/22/the-better-listener/#comment-13246 awww..dogs have the best listening ears! that's all i can say! =P heheh yea, women are all different, they have different needs =P awww..dogs have the best listening ears! that’s all i can say! =P heheh

yea, women are all different, they have different needs =P

]]> By: tihtahpah http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/the-better-listener/comment-page-1/#comment-13233 tihtahpah Thu, 22 Mar 2007 00:28:09 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/03/22/the-better-listener/#comment-13233 all i can say is.........i love eddie. Different women need different tactics. some women just likes the husband to decide everything including giving their salary to them. Some women are very opinionated and needs to be heard all the time. all i can say is………i love eddie.
Different women need different tactics.
some women just likes the husband to decide everything including giving their salary to them.
Some women are very opinionated and needs to be heard all the time.

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