Comments on: Getting Back With Your Ex http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/ Mon, 09 Jan 2012 01:49:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: TVD http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-139471 TVD Wed, 26 Aug 2009 01:02:38 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-139471 I have been out with someone a few times and felt a real connection. It really seemed to be a mutual feeling. She has just told me that over the past week she has gotten back together with her ex. I am hoping everyone is right that getting back with the ex doesnt work, because I would love another chance to date her. I have been out with someone a few times and felt a real connection. It really seemed to be a mutual feeling. She has just told me that over the past week she has gotten back together with her ex. I am hoping everyone is right that getting back with the ex doesnt work, because I would love another chance to date her.

]]> By: AG http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-74285 AG Sun, 23 Mar 2008 18:21:09 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-74285 Hi, I like to get some advise for my friend. She was in a relationship with a guy close to a year and got engaged to him too. Before this she was engaged to someone else (Mr. A), but it got to much and she left him. Following that she met someone else (Mr. B) and bought a flat with this guy and got into a mortgage with him, but again it got to much and she left him. After this she quickly met a new guy (Mr.C), who she fell in love with and got engaged too. After a year with Mr. C, things got to much for her again and she left him. She ended up back in her flat she owned with Mr.B and recently they have just got back together. She thinks as the have a mortgage together its worth a 2nd go and she discovered after a year apart she still has feelings for this guy and says she is back in love with him. But will this work? I know Mr. C is she cut up by all this and wants her back - but what do you guys think is best for all involved? Cheers Hi,

I like to get some advise for my friend.

She was in a relationship with a guy close to a year and got engaged to him too. Before this she was engaged to someone else (Mr. A), but it got to much and she left him.

Following that she met someone else (Mr. B) and bought a flat with this guy and got into a mortgage with him, but again it got to much and she left him.

After this she quickly met a new guy (Mr.C), who she fell in love with and got engaged too.

After a year with Mr. C, things got to much for her again and she left him. She ended up back in her flat she owned with Mr.B and recently they have just got back together. She thinks as the have a mortgage together its worth a 2nd go and she discovered after a year apart she still has feelings for this guy and says she is back in love with him. But will this work?

I know Mr. C is she cut up by all this and wants her back – but what do you guys think is best for all involved?

Cheers

]]> By: Gallivanter http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-38402 Gallivanter Mon, 10 Sep 2007 01:50:30 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-38402 <i>jean</i> Glad to be of help. :-) jean Glad to be of help. :-)

]]> By: jean http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-38314 jean Sun, 09 Sep 2007 08:55:43 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-38314 thank you for posting this topic up. eventhough we all know in our hearts what's the best/right thing to do, sometimes hearing it from other people who had gone true it makes it easier to face our own music and do what needs to be done. this sure helps me from the current situation I am at right right now. love everyones comment too thank you for posting this topic up. eventhough we all know in our hearts what’s the best/right thing to do, sometimes hearing it from other people who had gone true it makes it easier to face our own music and do what needs to be done. this sure helps me from the current situation I am at right right now. love everyones comment too

]]> By: Gallivanter http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-28645 Gallivanter Thu, 12 Jul 2007 14:55:24 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-28645 <i>Julie</i> You may think she won, but I think she may be in for a surprise. Good think you have pulled out. *HUGS* <i>IQ</i> There is no hard and fast rules to this, else none of us will be having heartbreaks. If you want seek closure, don't just list down the person's positives, list all the negatives as well, and then discuss them through with that person, if it comes to another argument, you'll know what to do. If it doesn't, then it's down to you on how much trust you still have for that person, FEELINGS aside. Julie You may think she won, but I think she may be in for a surprise. Good think you have pulled out. *HUGS*

IQ There is no hard and fast rules to this, else none of us will be having heartbreaks. If you want seek closure, don’t just list down the person’s positives, list all the negatives as well, and then discuss them through with that person, if it comes to another argument, you’ll know what to do. If it doesn’t, then it’s down to you on how much trust you still have for that person, FEELINGS aside.

]]> By: IQ http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-28284 IQ Tue, 10 Jul 2007 15:46:51 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-28284 How do you achieve closure without reaching back into that old relationship? I want to be able to stop thinking so much about my ex and dedicating that relationship (which I know was not healthy for neither of us) so much time and energy, but I feel like we didn't have true closure, how do you do that on your own? Reaching out, right now, could lead to us getting back together (which I am not totally sure I want) or getting hurt by the bad treatment I'll receive (which I am sure I don't want). Help How do you achieve closure without reaching back into that old relationship? I want to be able to stop thinking so much about my ex and dedicating that relationship (which I know was not healthy for neither of us) so much time and energy, but I feel like we didn’t have true closure, how do you do that on your own? Reaching out, right now, could lead to us getting back together (which I am not totally sure I want) or getting hurt by the bad treatment I’ll receive (which I am sure I don’t want). Help

]]> By: Julie http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-27812 Julie Fri, 06 Jul 2007 12:28:34 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-27812 Thanks for all your comments, its been 3 weeks now, and although I still think of him all the time, it does not hurt quite so much. Its strange, but I dont wish him any harm, and I dont feel jealous of her, my pride is hurt, that he preferred her to me, but as you have all said, she is an Ex and has been 5 times, so for the past 5 years it has been either her or me, well I am out of this game now..........and it does not bother me she won.........maybe I had already stopped loving him.....strange..... Thanks for all your comments, its been 3 weeks now, and although I still think of him all the time, it does not hurt quite so much. Its strange, but I dont wish him any harm, and I dont feel jealous of her, my pride is hurt, that he preferred her to me, but as you have all said, she is an Ex and has been 5 times, so for the past 5 years it has been either her or me, well I am out of this game now……….and it does not bother me she won………maybe I had already stopped loving him…..strange…..

]]> By: Gallivanter http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-27661 Gallivanter Thu, 05 Jul 2007 09:35:29 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-27661 <i>Julie</i> He doesn't sound like he has a backbone. The brutal truth, if he's 45 and undecided, dump the bloke as he's not fit to have your love. <i>Sunil</i> Super points amigo. :-) <i>Terence</i> Spot on. :-D Julie He doesn’t sound like he has a backbone. The brutal truth, if he’s 45 and undecided, dump the bloke as he’s not fit to have your love.

Sunil Super points amigo. :-)

Terence Spot on. :-D

]]> By: Terence http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-27142 Terence Mon, 02 Jul 2007 06:58:45 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-27142 Julie, my take on your situation is that perhaps he's finding himself lonely and needed someone to be with at this point of time. However, if you're sayin' that he's back with his ex AGAIN... like "Gallivanter" said, 99.9% of the time that relationship will not last.. It had failed for the previous 5 times.. what makes him think it'll work this time.... You'll have to get on with your life, Julie... Give yourself sometime to think it over whether it's worth it or not.. Julie, my take on your situation is that perhaps he’s finding himself lonely and needed someone to be with at this point of time. However, if you’re sayin’ that he’s back with his ex AGAIN… like “Gallivanter” said, 99.9% of the time that relationship will not last.. It had failed for the previous 5 times.. what makes him think it’ll work this time….

You’ll have to get on with your life, Julie… Give yourself sometime to think it over whether it’s worth it or not..

]]> By: Sunil http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-27033 Sunil Sun, 01 Jul 2007 14:37:40 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-27033 I guess when you're recently single and the times when you're really lonely you tend to run back to the familiarity of your last relationship. That's when ppl get confused if they should get back to an ex or not. Thinking with the heart instead of the head. I myself have been in an on-off relationship. The problem there was closure. No closure meant it dragged on till it became evident to both of us that although we love each other it wasn't going to work out. Like I've said before I rather be single than be in a bad relationship. No point hurting two people. It's healthier. I guess when you’re recently single and the times when you’re really lonely you tend to run back to the familiarity of your last relationship. That’s when ppl get confused if they should get back to an ex or not. Thinking with the heart instead of the head.

I myself have been in an on-off relationship. The problem there was closure. No closure meant it dragged on till it became evident to both of us that although we love each other it wasn’t going to work out.

Like I’ve said before I rather be single than be in a bad relationship. No point hurting two people. It’s healthier.

]]> By: Julie http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-26943 Julie Sun, 01 Jul 2007 00:14:03 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-26943 I need some advice, I have just broken up with my partner after 2 years, we had a row, I said things I should not have said, he walked out. He is 45 and lives with his parents ( due to loosing his home 7 years ago in a divorce )and has no desire to change that situation, infact they have a great deal of influence over him and hated me, as I am an independent female.I told him, that this could not carry on, that was 9 days ago, and now I find he is back with an ex, who has has been on and off with for 5 years ( 6 times in total ). So in 9 days, he has gone from being with me to totally inlove with her. I may add, that we were on holiday 3 weeks ago.....and now he is saying he loves her...I am in disbelief and stunned ... how can anyone switch feeling like that in 9 days...I know he was not seeing her before our argument. I need some advice, I have just broken up with my partner after 2 years, we had a row, I said things I should not have said, he walked out. He is 45 and lives with his parents ( due to loosing his home 7 years ago in a divorce )and has no desire to change that situation, infact they have a great deal of influence over him and hated me, as I am an independent female.I told him, that this could not carry on, that was 9 days ago, and now I find he is back with an ex, who has has been on and off with for 5 years ( 6 times in total ). So in 9 days, he has gone from being with me to totally inlove with her. I may add, that we were on holiday 3 weeks ago…..and now he is saying he loves her…I am in disbelief and stunned … how can anyone switch feeling like that in 9 days…I know he was not seeing her before our argument.

]]> By: Gallivanter http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-26703 Gallivanter Thu, 28 Jun 2007 14:49:46 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-26703 <i>Terence</i> Yes, 99.9% it'll never work. :-) Terence Yes, 99.9% it’ll never work. :-)

]]> By: Terence http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-26690 Terence Thu, 28 Jun 2007 11:48:15 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-26690 i guess once you break-up, forget all those feelings of gettin' back even if you yearn so much to be together again.... it just doesn't work and feels so awkward! Treat her like a friend lerrr...... :) i guess once you break-up, forget all those feelings of gettin’ back even if you yearn so much to be together again…. it just doesn’t work and feels so awkward! Treat her like a friend lerrr…… :)

]]> By: Gallivanter http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-26441 Gallivanter Tue, 26 Jun 2007 11:05:38 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-26441 <i>marsha</i> Guess we are all suckers for punishment, though some of us do learn from it. :-) <i>unkaleong</i> Nice one, thanks. :-) <i>belle</i> LOL, good luck to him then. marsha Guess we are all suckers for punishment, though some of us do learn from it. :-)

unkaleong Nice one, thanks. :-)

belle LOL, good luck to him then.

]]> By: belle http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-26436 belle Tue, 26 Jun 2007 10:04:15 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-26436 seriously i dont know.. but it seems so! haha..he is going after another gal.his BEST FREN lol! seriously i dont know..
but it seems so! haha..he is going after another gal.his BEST FREN lol!

]]> By: unkaleong http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-26428 unkaleong Tue, 26 Jun 2007 07:50:54 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-26428 Closure is important for each party to move on. Without closure, one will always be hanging on... But once the deed is done...Don't go kicking yourself in the butt by asking yourself, "what if..." Don't regret the choices you've made in life, if you've made a mistake learn from them. Closure is important for each party to move on. Without closure, one will always be hanging on…

But once the deed is done…Don’t go kicking yourself in the butt by asking yourself, “what if…”

Don’t regret the choices you’ve made in life, if you’ve made a mistake learn from them.

]]> By: marsha http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-26411 marsha Tue, 26 Jun 2007 03:54:31 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-26411 hit the nail on the head. unless the issue is completely resolved or there is a resolution, don't go back to eat the same grass from the same shitty patch again mah. why lah?! hit the nail on the head. unless the issue is completely resolved or there is a resolution, don’t go back to eat the same grass from the same shitty patch again mah. why lah?!

]]> By: Gallivanter http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-26396 Gallivanter Tue, 26 Jun 2007 01:56:21 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-26396 <i>zewt</i> But mistakes cannot be undone, only learned. <i>Faiez</i> Agreed, TRUST is IMPORTANT. Once trust is broken, it's nearly impossible of re-building it. <i>belle</i> Too perfect? So he can get a better life without you? Is he an idiot? Did he push you to think like this? <i>IQ</i> Well, a breakup IS still a breakup. At this critical stage, I know exactly what's going through you're mind. But I won't give you any advice on what to do, as it's better for you to figure it out yourself. zewt But mistakes cannot be undone, only learned.

Faiez Agreed, TRUST is IMPORTANT. Once trust is broken, it’s nearly impossible of re-building it.

belle Too perfect? So he can get a better life without you? Is he an idiot? Did he push you to think like this?

IQ Well, a breakup IS still a breakup. At this critical stage, I know exactly what’s going through you’re mind. But I won’t give you any advice on what to do, as it’s better for you to figure it out yourself.

]]> By: IQ http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-26375 IQ Mon, 25 Jun 2007 20:46:41 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-26375 What happens if everyone around you suggests that it's not a good idea to go back because they think your ex is a horrible person, but you know that they're only mis-understood? That underneath all that bad attitude, bad way of reacting to things, etc - there is someone who truly loves you?!? I broke up with my ex three weeks ago because I felt like it wasn't working anymore, we have not spoken since but I really miss everything now and I'm very close to reaching out and asking to work things out. I'm really afraid I am never going to feel this way again and I would sacrifice anything to try to make it work now. What happens if everyone around you suggests that it’s not a good idea to go back because they think your ex is a horrible person, but you know that they’re only mis-understood? That underneath all that bad attitude, bad way of reacting to things, etc – there is someone who truly loves you?!?

I broke up with my ex three weeks ago because I felt like it wasn’t working anymore, we have not spoken since but I really miss everything now and I’m very close to reaching out and asking to work things out. I’m really afraid I am never going to feel this way again and I would sacrifice anything to try to make it work now.

]]> By: belle http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/relationship/getting-back-with-your-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-26362 belle Mon, 25 Jun 2007 18:31:18 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/06/25/getting-back-with-your-ex/#comment-26362 "after all this time u still owe" -i dont love u- sometimes its us who dont worth the other party. my experience is... he is way too perfect for a person like me who is selfish tht love no one else except myself. i leave him so he can get a better life witout me.no i cant go back to him coz ill see his pain. this post really makes me ponder “after all this time u still owe” -i dont love u-
sometimes its us who dont worth the other party.
my experience is… he is way too perfect for a person like me who is selfish tht love no one else except myself.
i leave him so he can get a better life witout me.no i cant go back to him coz ill see his pain.
this post really makes me ponder

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