melanie The doot will have it coming, what goes around…as evil as it sounds…

Yvy Yup, and my momma brought me up all by herself, probably that’s what I got huge amounts of respect for women. I’ll chop my hands off if I ever do.

Wombat That is true too. Perhaps it’s our human nature to try to see the best in people. Hmm…

Oliee Whatever it is, there’s NO justification of man hitting a woman.

maybe past experience made them be like this? a female whom they despise? an aunt? a sister or even their mom or an ex-gf? or of how they were brought up in a battered family, constant beatings from a brother or father? pressure/stressed with working lifestyle? so the ones closest to them gf/wife becomes the victim of being the punching bag for them to let out their surpressed feelings? have you ever wondered to be in the minds of these phsycos? of why they did it? what where they thinking? *shudders*

so if i were in that situation, no matter how hard it would be, i’d definitely walk away, no turning back at all.

I truly believe he’s a “socio path” because he has many of the traits a socio path has.

I’m so disgusted with him. I’m trying to be amicable about our divorce but he wants to continue to play mental games and make everything difficult. He’s still trying to control my mind and intimidate me and make me feel weak and helpless.

I have a new job now and I’m gaining my self respect back. Now if I can just get this divorce over with and provide a much healthier and safer environment for my children. My children are my world and they are all that matters to me.

Sometimes it truly does take one to hit rock bottome to realize they need to get out of the abusive relationship. If you have children, get out now especially.

Good luck!

And by saying that there is no excuse to hitting is ignoring the fact that this behaviour could be a genuine mental problem that could be helped with treatment.

I’m not defending abusers and I do have huge sympathy with those abused but I think there are two victims in this kind of relationship.

xin Spot on!

yipguseng But don’t always walk away from an argument that needs to be solved. If you realize that you’re losing control, then please do.

Wombat I was drove to that point once, I picked up my mobile and wanted to flung it, but within a split second, I realized what I was doing, and through a book instead. LOL. Seriously, there is just NO excuse. And let’s not start with abusing children – that’ll turn me into Hulk.

melanie Yes, it’s definitely not easy to walk away, that’s when your family and friends will stand up and be counted. The way that bloke resorted to threats to wipe out her family simply shows he has an IQ of a toilet fly.

Mo Like Rudy said, nurture. A man must always control his emotions, it’s what differentiates him from being a criminal.

cindy No such thing. 2 sides of the coin, 3 sides of the coin, it doesn’t matter. ZERO EXCUSE.

brandon Emotional abuse is as bad if not worse. I felt helpless when I read her message to me, cause she was asking about my annual migraine attacks and what I did to overcome it. She gets migraine attacks more frequently that one can imagine because of those slipped disc on her back. I’ve never been upset like this for a long time. Arrghh – somebody find me Barney the dinosaur!!

being told that you’re no good, you’re worthless and constant put downs start to sound believable if you hear it enough and when coupled with physical abuse, it just adds up to complete break down in one’s outlook and self worth (if any at all) resulting in a life lived with constant fear.

cindy: i don’t think that there’s any reason at all, however ridiculous or unreasonable to strike a woman. sure, we men ridicule each other and even exchange some friendly banter and punches with each other, but that’s just how some guys are sometimes. but when it comes to dealing with the person you can say you love and care about, but yet display such acts of violence, what does that then say about this man who supposedly loves you?

dan: i agree with you that abusive men are indeed cowards in every sense of the word as they display their own personal fears and insecurities through acts of violence. It’s sad when you know a victim of such violence as there’s only so much you can do sometimes. i am glad that you friend has now left that abusive relationship and is on a journey towards healing herself.

Well I’m not saying I’m against the saying that men shouldn’t hit women. Sometimes the situation might push the man into doing what he did. There’s just 2 sides of the coin, you see…

But yah, I agree.

If your man is abusive, leave the hell out. Don’t bother packing too much or you might not be able to run away from him!