There’s some form of momentum during the courtship process, and it usually takes off at high speed. Just ensure that you stay on her radar even if you don’t often see each other. Instead of swamping her with phone calls, just send her a quick e-mail or text message, and let her set the pace.
WAIT. Don’t keep throwing e-mails and unreturned phone calls. Stop being a desperado. She’ll probably ask about your past relationships, so try to keep things simple, and don’t over analyze else you’ll look like an asshole. Complaining about your past relationships only shows that you’re still fixated on its failures. And boasting about the past also may seem like an attempt to pimp yourself.
TAKE IT SLOW. A relationship at this stage is all about setting personal boundaries, thus, it should be a gradual process. It’s easy to get sucked in at the beginning, like I did, with the rush of adrenalin of a fresh start, but the sooner that you depend on each other for everything, the faster your relationship will burn to the ground.
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August 16th, 2007 at 12:53am
great advice mate…i just got into a relationship with guns blazing..but after a month the pace seems a tad slower..at most times my fingers get itchy and head towards the mobile keypad…but then the mind over thinks and i put it down…
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August 16th, 2007 at 12:54am
Go slow man… when everything done… make it fast then
Honestly, i don’t have the slightest idea what i have just said.
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August 16th, 2007 at 1:23am
ola.
it’s often screwed up when one didn’t set the pace right. truly complexed and it takes more than words to master the art of love - art of adding values to one another, enriching each other’s live.
all da best
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August 16th, 2007 at 2:57am
yes.. WAIT and TAKE IT SLOWLY. it just like getting know you dance partner. you start with a slow steps dance and then gradually move to faster beat until both of you learn not to step each other toe. ^__^
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August 16th, 2007 at 8:13am
i like the way jefferi described it as a dancing thing…i kinda think of it as something like cooking. u know, prepare ingredients, wait for things to simmer, or get boiled yadayaday
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August 16th, 2007 at 9:34am
like ur new template!!!!! heheheh
yup..i definately agree with take it slow!
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August 16th, 2007 at 9:56am
I didn’t have a choice. It was full throttle, or don’t even bother. But then I never did things in half measures.
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August 16th, 2007 at 10:10am
in the beginning is lidat lor. very de kan-cheong! but accept the fact that things will slow down and that both of you have lives of your own live, then everything’s cool. one of the biggest mistakes couples make in the beginning of a relationship is to merge their lives together.
when you get together, the concept should be ‘i want to be with you because i want to and like to’ NOT ‘we are one. i can’t live without you. i wanna know everything there is to know about you’
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August 16th, 2007 at 11:38am
It’s always best to take things slow.. There’s no reason to rush, and if you just enjoy the moment, things might just get better
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August 16th, 2007 at 12:47pm
well, i think, sometimes u gotta make the hay while sun shines, how about speed at first, slow down later?
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August 16th, 2007 at 4:11pm
Your posts have been rather relationships-inclined these days, Dan. I wonder who you’re in love with, Must be a lucky chick she is!
Btw, see if you can find some time to do a meme. I tagged you. Sorry mate!
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August 16th, 2007 at 5:14pm
I sooo agree that you shouldn’t go all out in the start if you do then the girl will keep expecting every gesture after that to be bigger and better. Don’t overdo things, find a comfort level that you’re both comfortable with.
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August 16th, 2007 at 5:16pm
I think in new relationships everything seems so new and exciting and we do often forget that we are individuals. Being dependent on each other is a good thing but we all need our space. I love sending smses and tend to over do it sometimes I think. I dont think it’s a sign of being a desperado, it’s just another way to show affection.
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August 17th, 2007 at 3:45pm
mat kolej I think we all are at one point guilty of “blaze of glory”.
We just need to remind ourselves to stop and smell the roses.
papajoneh Neither do I. Papa J is now Yoda.
meekiee Definitely - speed is the key. Never rush into things.
jefferi Nice example. I like.
tihtahpah Yup, exacto mundo.
huei Well, it’s an advertorial with Nuffnang.
The Snark Hmmm, interesting take. Did it work?
marsha Yeah, biggest mistakes is to merge lives at that stage. It has to be an easing process.
Sha Right on!
xin Well, I’ve tried it before, and failed. Not once.
charlenediane But of course, since I’m in a relationship, I might as well use it to share what I’ve learned.
And sorry babe, I don’t do meme - except if it involves music.
~Bee Nee~ Yes, expectations are set too high when you go down in a blaze of glory.
Lorraine Agreed - SPACE is important. Crucial I would say.
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