Building Trust
SharePosted on 06. Aug, 2007 by Gallivanter in Thoughts
Do you have trust issues with your loved ones? I always believe a relationship should start with an unconditional trust, chances have to be taken, hearts have to be put on the line. Else, what’s the point of being in love? I know, the pain can be really bad if one’s hurting from the past.
I think you should let the person know your true feelings, emotions and reactions. Have confidence in them to respect you and not take advantage. This will help them be supportive thus reinforcing you, even if you let your guard down. That’s the substance of relationships that permits you to need others to fulfill yourself.
I’ve experienced some deal of emotional neglect during my younger years, and have been squelched by my so-called friends for the way I felt or what I believed in. I caved in – and I’ve learned from my mistakes. It hasn’t stop me laying it all on the line, to risk getting hurt again.
Is it self-esteem a reason for trust issues? Maybe one cannot fathom that they are deserving of the attention and care? They have problems even trusting the positive, healthy, and reinforcing behavior of another who is sincere.
Hope. Without hope, we can become emotionally isolated. Not everyone is evil. Take the risk to be open to others. It’ll let you become a real person. It is an requisite behavior in building trust between two people because it is the grounding of strengths and weaknesses on which you have to absorb as the relationship evolves.
Without trust, a relationship is nothing.
marsha
Aug 6th, 2007
whenever in a real relationship, there’s no other way but to TRUST. end of story.
Tine
Aug 6th, 2007
It was very difficult for me to build that trust when I embarked upon the new relationship. It takes both sides to sustain the relationship – for one to learn to trust, for the other to be patient. Ultimately, trust is built again, and the rest, they say, is history
huei
Aug 6th, 2007
yup! trust..forgive and forget..and give and take! essentials of a good relationship! =D
~Bee Nee~
Aug 6th, 2007
I usually find it easy to trust someone I care about. It’s when trust is lost that I find really hard to recover from. I don’t forgive and forget easily. Bad habit.
pelf
Aug 6th, 2007
It’s been more than a year since I’ve been hurt, and I am still learning to trust him. I get all wobbly and insecure most of the time and I hate that feeling.
I am looking forward to reclaiming my positive self-esteem again, and I am learning to trust all over again. I might make it, I might not. Only time will tell.
clement
Aug 6th, 2007
it’s hard to trust someone completely~ easier said than done
Olieee
Aug 6th, 2007
For me trust is everything, but once betrayed it’ll take a long time to regain trust. One more thing, men aren’t into this lovey dovey thingy and seldom let their emotion shows or let their other half be aware of their feelings, why ah?? But once they decided to show it, alamak so romantic. But why lah can’t it be on a regular basis?? ;-b he,he,he.
Wombat
Aug 6th, 2007
Easy for you to say. When you get married, and your wife asks you “Do I look fat in this dress? Come on, I won’t get angry. TRUST ME!”, lets see how you answer that.
(There’s actually no correct answer. There’s only two possible answers either YES or NO, but their existence are mutually exclusive and cannot possibly exists together in this universe as we know it….)
Giddy Tiger
Aug 6th, 2007
Trust and of course, freedom, are key ingredients to a relationship’s success. Any relationship for that matter.
Giddy Tiger
Aug 6th, 2007
Trust and freedom are key ingredients in any relationship.
tihtahpah
Aug 7th, 2007
well said dan. i think a relationship should be honest. without honesty and trust, what do you have in that relationship? just sex and someone who accompanies u for food and fun?
Gallivanter
Aug 7th, 2007
marsha Agreed 100%
Tine Well, it’s not as difficult as it sounds, otherwise what’s the point in having a relationship anyway if one can’t open up?
huei
~Bee Nee~ Well, in a relationship, forgiving and forgetting are key elements too else how would one grow, unless if the damage’s too deep.
pelf Yes, let time take over, it’s the best thing, but of course don’t just wait, do something about it.
clement If you put your mind to it, it can be done. Nothing’s impossible my friend.
Olieee I agree on regaining the trust.
Wombat I’ll cross that bridge when I get there and I’ll let you know.
Giddy Tiger 110% agree! Trust AND freedom!
tihtahpah Yes, but sometimes being honest can backfire too.
shana
Aug 8th, 2007
i’ve been hurt over and over again before and its very hard to build that trust,time heals and with extra careful and cautions taken,i finally learn how to trust that person without ever getting hurt again.Trust is very important in a relationship.VERY.
Gallivanter
Aug 8th, 2007
shana Agreed.
xin
Aug 8th, 2007
i think..whoever promises to be truthful n shit is just bullshitting, tok is cheap, and only time will tell
The Snark
Aug 9th, 2007
Exactly what I needed to read, at this exact moment in time. Thanks mate. Beer on me.
Gallivanter
Aug 10th, 2007
xin It’s not about whoever that promises, but it’s about trusting someone unreservedly.
The Snark No problemo, glad to help – I can only start boozing next month.