Comments on: Long Distance Relationships http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/ Mon, 09 Jan 2012 01:49:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Relationship » Long Distance Relationships http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-41006 Relationship » Long Distance Relationships Tue, 25 Sep 2007 13:33:13 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-41006 [...] unknown wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerptLong Distance Relationships. Direful. Can you keep on loving someone if distance separates them? Absence makes the heart grow stronger or out of sight out of mind? I believe it all boils down to how BADLY you want it to work. … [...] padding: 1em;
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[...] unknown wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerptLong Distance Relationships. Direful. Can you keep on loving someone if distance separates them? Absence makes the heart grow stronger or out of sight out of mind? I believe it all boils down to how BADLY you want it to work. … [...]

]]> By: Gallivanter http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-38519 Gallivanter Tue, 11 Sep 2007 01:45:04 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-38519 <i>marsha</i> Of course, hence my entry. ;-) marsha Of course, hence my entry. ;-)

]]> By: marsha http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-38468 marsha Mon, 10 Sep 2007 16:45:14 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-38468 whether long or short distance, a lot of the points above is relevant mah. right? it doesn't matter whether you're far or near, trust, honesty, commitment and patience is required in keeping a relationship/marriage together. agree? whether long or short distance, a lot of the points above is relevant mah. right? it doesn’t matter whether you’re far or near, trust, honesty, commitment and patience is required in keeping a relationship/marriage together. agree?

]]> By: Gallivanter http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37638 Gallivanter Thu, 06 Sep 2007 01:46:28 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37638 Thank you all for your wonderful input. I'm glad to see that this topic brought out your opinions and experiences. Cheezels & pappadoms! :-D Thank you all for your wonderful input. I’m glad to see that this topic brought out your opinions and experiences. Cheezels & pappadoms! :-D

]]> By: jefferi http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37508 jefferi Wed, 05 Sep 2007 08:33:36 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37508 I don't prefer LDR if can. Relationship with him/her is just like studying a degree. The keyword is CREDIT HOUR. Credit hour represent the time both of you together and touching each other hand. Talk by phone or msn or email not count. If you don't have enough credit hour, so it means that both of you not spending enough time knowing each other. Knowing each each other not just by talking, messaging or emailing. Touching is important too to feed in emotional closeness with each other. So, without it would lead to lack of emotional closeness that we need. There is nothing wrong to be attached to each other. Love made one to be emotional depend to his/her side. LDR is such a turn off to relationship closeness because we need to be so independent and loyal to each other verbal contract of forever love without be together. Nevertheless, LDR is not a bad thing. It just a hard way of relationship. Trust, honesty, communication, and patient is a must not just for LDR but also for the norm relationship. So, best wishes and prayers to them who on LDR. I don’t prefer LDR if can. Relationship with him/her is just like studying a degree. The keyword is CREDIT HOUR. Credit hour represent the time both of you together and touching each other hand. Talk by phone or msn or email not count. If you don’t have enough credit hour, so it means that both of you not spending enough time knowing each other. Knowing each each other not just by talking, messaging or emailing. Touching is important too to feed in emotional closeness with each other. So, without it would lead to lack of emotional closeness that we need.

There is nothing wrong to be attached to each other. Love made one to be emotional depend to his/her side. LDR is such a turn off to relationship closeness because we need to be so independent and loyal to each other verbal contract of forever love without be together.

Nevertheless, LDR is not a bad thing. It just a hard way of relationship. Trust, honesty, communication, and patient is a must not just for LDR but also for the norm relationship. So, best wishes and prayers to them who on LDR.

]]> By: Olieee http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37407 Olieee Tue, 04 Sep 2007 20:44:19 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37407 Jewelle i had that too!! I mean intending to send a msg or call another friend instead auto dialed on his number instead.. LoL.. anyway, LDR does sucks... it'll never work for me at least on the guy's side coz they just can't seem to be the one with patience.. i'm always d one who waits... Jewelle i had that too!! I mean intending to send a msg or call another friend instead auto dialed on his number instead.. LoL..
anyway, LDR does sucks… it’ll never work for me at least on the guy’s side coz they just can’t seem to be the one with patience.. i’m always d one who waits…

]]> By: Mr D http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37236 Mr D Mon, 03 Sep 2007 22:54:31 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37236 Long distance is very hard and sometimes it will make u do something crazy like get married to the wonderful person!! haha Long distance is very hard and sometimes it will make u do something crazy like get married to the wonderful person!! haha

]]> By: Shemah http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37172 Shemah Mon, 03 Sep 2007 15:15:56 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37172 It's definitely difficult. I'm in a long distance marriage. I'd explain but that would take two years of blogging. :) Anyways, I really agree with all of the above. You must have all those mentioned up there. You can't make it 4/5. You MUST have it all. There will come a time when it wouldn't be long distance anymore and that's what should drive you to make it work, knowing it's worth your while. Till that time comes, just hang in there with your 5 rules for LDR. Great post Daniel. Loves it. :) It’s definitely difficult. I’m in a long distance marriage. I’d explain but that would take two years of blogging. :) Anyways, I really agree with all of the above. You must have all those mentioned up there. You can’t make it 4/5. You MUST have it all.

There will come a time when it wouldn’t be long distance anymore and that’s what should drive you to make it work, knowing it’s worth your while. Till that time comes, just hang in there with your 5 rules for LDR.

Great post Daniel. Loves it. :)

]]> By: conancat http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37171 conancat Mon, 03 Sep 2007 15:11:59 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37171 long distance is really hard... not an easy thing to maintain, really :) if two is someone that had been together for years and they have to seperate because of work, i guess that is easier... but if two just started off as a distant relationship such as from net or email or msn and decided to couple up, well personally i rarely see these type of couple work out long distance is really hard… not an easy thing to maintain, really :) if two is someone that had been together for years and they have to seperate because of work, i guess that is easier… but if two just started off as a distant relationship such as from net or email or msn and decided to couple up, well personally i rarely see these type of couple work out

]]> By: Jewelle http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37155 Jewelle Mon, 03 Sep 2007 12:48:44 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37155 Commitment - at the back of your mind you must think he/she is the one you want to be with at the end of the day. Trust - no blind trust. trust has to be earned and be justified Honesty - don't have to be honest about everything. its hard to deal with things when you're not face to face so have to learn to minimise and prioritise issues Communication - once a day or as often as possible. my fingers could auto dial his number even when i planned to call another friend! Patience - think of it this way, this is the chance to enjoy some freedom - as long as its within being trustworthy LDR can be a pain especially when you just need him/her to be there - this is when, he/she is not here but (another) he/she is...then things can happened. Stay away from such situations. The best thing is, you get excuses to Travel! Holiday! If you're meant to be together, you will be and in the meantime, make the best of things :-) Commitment – at the back of your mind you must think he/she is the one you want to be with at the end of the day.

Trust – no blind trust. trust has to be earned and be justified

Honesty – don’t have to be honest about everything. its hard to deal with things when you’re not face to face so have to learn to minimise and prioritise issues

Communication – once a day or as often as possible. my fingers could auto dial his number even when i planned to call another friend!

Patience – think of it this way, this is the chance to enjoy some freedom – as long as its within being trustworthy

LDR can be a pain especially when you just need him/her to be there – this is when, he/she is not here but (another) he/she is…then things can happened. Stay away from such situations.

The best thing is, you get excuses to Travel! Holiday!

If you’re meant to be together, you will be and in the meantime, make the best of things :-)

]]> By: suanie http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37115 suanie Mon, 03 Sep 2007 09:29:27 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37115 hehehe cipet.. kk is not oz!! :P I give myself 3 years in my LDR. if it doesn't work out, i'd only be 29 :D hehehe cipet.. kk is not oz!! :P

I give myself 3 years in my LDR. if it doesn’t work out, i’d only be 29 :D

]]> By: brandon http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37103 brandon Mon, 03 Sep 2007 08:06:21 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37103 i agree with you dan. ldr's are tough. been through enough of them to let you know what has been tried & tested. then again, as with any relationship, it's different... the needs, your maturity, the standing of the relationship, the foundation. went through quite some time long distance with my current partner and it was tough even though we've been friends for like 10 yrs. now, in about a month or so, we'll be apart again for about 6 months which i know will be a test for us again. but at least, with us getting married come feb next year, it will keep us close as it is more important than ever that we bridge the physical gap between us and nourish it instead with the emotional and mental values. congrats to you on having lasted an ldr! i agree with you dan. ldr’s are tough. been through enough of them to let you know what has been tried & tested. then again, as with any relationship, it’s different… the needs, your maturity, the standing of the relationship, the foundation. went through quite some time long distance with my current partner and it was tough even though we’ve been friends for like 10 yrs. now, in about a month or so, we’ll be apart again for about 6 months which i know will be a test for us again.
but at least, with us getting married come feb next year, it will keep us close as it is more important than ever that we bridge the physical gap between us and nourish it instead with the emotional and mental values.
congrats to you on having lasted an ldr!

]]> By: pris http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37094 pris Mon, 03 Sep 2007 06:38:42 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37094 hey tine.. that's cool!!.. i read from somewhere( i forgot where) that 82% of LDR would fail.. but you proved that LDR does can really work!!.. i'm glad somehow, cause like Dan, i'm also in a LDR and really want this thing to work out well.. COngrates to you.. Good luck to Dan and Mel.. i know you can do it.. :) hey tine.. that’s cool!!.. i read from somewhere( i forgot where) that 82% of LDR would fail.. but you proved that LDR does can really work!!.. i’m glad somehow, cause like Dan, i’m also in a LDR and really want this thing to work out well..
COngrates to you..
Good luck to Dan and Mel.. i know you can do it.. :)

]]> By: Tine http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37091 Tine Mon, 03 Sep 2007 06:13:12 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37091 Oh how I agree with you, that it really does come down to how badly you want the relationship to work, whether it's long-distanced or not. It takes commitment from BOTH parties, not just one. And trust, can't emphasise that enough. Never hold back from your partner, even if you think it's better to keep the matter quiet for the fear of hurting him/her, because the more secrets you keep from each other, the more you'll flushing the relationship down the loo. I guess my LDR went pretty well. We just got married :) Oh how I agree with you, that it really does come down to how badly you want the relationship to work, whether it’s long-distanced or not. It takes commitment from BOTH parties, not just one. And trust, can’t emphasise that enough. Never hold back from your partner, even if you think it’s better to keep the matter quiet for the fear of hurting him/her, because the more secrets you keep from each other, the more you’ll flushing the relationship down the loo.

I guess my LDR went pretty well. We just got married :)

]]> By: vhanded http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37058 vhanded Mon, 03 Sep 2007 03:04:08 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37058 I dont know, I always want a relationship, but i never try the taste before. I dont know, I always want a relationship, but i never try the taste before.

]]> By: massy http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37055 massy Mon, 03 Sep 2007 02:55:49 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37055 it's hard..well, confess: relationship is owez a failure for me hahahah. coz i dun trust ppl easily XD it’s hard..well, confess: relationship is owez a failure for me hahahah. coz i dun trust ppl easily XD

]]> By: xin http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37053 xin Mon, 03 Sep 2007 02:48:39 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37053 I had a LDR for 4 years, i thought it would work out but it did not. It was really a waste of time. It became really sore when i only met him once or twice a year. I was as good as single. I promised myself never to go into a LDR ever again. I had a LDR for 4 years, i thought it would work out but it did not. It was really a waste of time. It became really sore when i only met him once or twice a year. I was as good as single. I promised myself never to go into a LDR ever again.

]]> By: clement http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/opinions/long-distance-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-37043 clement Mon, 03 Sep 2007 01:05:01 +0000 http://danielfranklingomez.com/blog/2007/09/03/long-distance-relationships/#comment-37043 it's real hard to keep this... tried that before.. in the end, she have these conversation.. if we're fated together.... we'll be someday... it’s real hard to keep this… tried that before.. in the end, she have these conversation.. if we’re fated together…. we’ll be someday…

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