When it’s Too Late in a Relationship
SharePosted on 01. Oct, 2007 by Gallivanter in Relationship
When a woman tells you, “It’s too late”, does that mean she has given up hope? It may sound like that. Generally, you can take her words literally. And when she stops complaining, I think she clams herself up and hardens her heart. That’s the “uh-oh” mode. If she reaches that state, that means she realized no matter what she says, it will no longer matter.
The question that you need to ask, is, how much this relationship means to you? Are you willing to put in a lot of effort to get her to open up again to share what she really feels? At times, in my life, I’ve listened hard to what she says, but always seem to have trouble to listen what she is not saying. I think all men are the same.
The only way to find out is to gently ask her, and based on experience, you need to probe a few times before she’s willing to tell you. I learned in the past to take care of her feelings first before my own needs, though at times I find it difficult to do so.
Personally, I don’t think it’s never too late IF she’s not in love with someone else. Patience and a whole lot of loving is crucial, unfortunately, patience is not one of my greatest elements.
keeyit
Oct 1st, 2007
Agree. Women needs times to make decision whether to go on with that guy or not. Women’s brain actually is very complicated. Too much to worry about. Guys, be patient.
raZZbeRRy
Oct 1st, 2007
Through personal experience, there were moments when I’ve said “It’s too late” and really decided not to hold on to it any longer. However, I agree with you that you have to see how much the relationship is worth to go on pursuing it or not.
Some things are worth fighting for, but some things should be let go of, although it can be difficult. But in general, I believe that any woman would want the man to put up a little fight for them.
hcfoo
Oct 1st, 2007
When a woman said it’s too late, she really means it. And she can be very heartless to prove it to u what she said is what she means.
Erina Law
Oct 1st, 2007
When we ladies say it’s too late, we really mean it. It’s where we really give up and heart is harden. You are so smart ……
Shemah
Oct 1st, 2007
Yeah, it’s true.. if there comes a time when we are truly fed up, we just stop talking.. or nagging (as you guys will put it).
When women just stop communicating, that’s when it’s just “too late”.
Jewelle
Oct 2nd, 2007
Hm…I think I agree with you, as long as she’s not into someone else, there is a chance, if you really want to make it work.
I also think not all women are the same, “it’s too late” doesn’t always mean a finale. it could simply mean that I’m fed up with talking it at that time. give it sometime then try again.
Gallivanter
Oct 2nd, 2007
keeyit I think it works both ways, but sometimes, we men leave it at the very late to realize.
raZZbeRRy Thanks for sharing.
But yes, it all boils down to how badly each party want it to work, for the right reasons.
hcfoo I suppose…
Erina Law Yeah, that’s why men have to always keep themselves in the loop of what’s going on with their women’s lives.
Shemah Agreed.
Jewelle Definitely, that’s the point I was trying to drive. “It’s Too Late” doesn’t really mean that it’s over.
heart broken
Oct 4th, 2007
I dont really have a comment but a question. My boyfriend left me because he says hes in love with the idea of us and how we are perfect for one another but hes not in love with me. However, its only been a little over 2 months. I really dont understand. Do I completely give up on us or try to make him see that we were ment to be? Please let me know what you guys think. Any help will be good.
Gallivanter
Oct 5th, 2007
heart broken To be honest, if he’s not in love with you, there’s pretty much nothing you can do about, unless he’s open to the idea of nurturing love. How do you know that you’re meant to be?