There are 2 conclusions to a relationship, wedding or separation. Both persons do not reach the point of marriage at the same time, usually one person will desire for marriage and coerces the other. She may think you’re a commitment-phobe or not serious if you don’t commit. She is wrong, just because you’re contented with her, it doesn’t mean that you’re ready for matrimony.
Enjoy the relationship first. Once you’re married, there will be BIG changes that necessitates obligations and settling down, which is not a bad thing, but it’ll pressure you to change. Accepting the realities of marriage should be part of the reason why you decide to marry. Please wait until conditions are plausible, don’t just jump into a marriage without thinking about the long term.
It’s important not to rush into a commitment that you’re not ready for. Let it shape up at its own pace. Marriage is a LIFETIME commitment, unlike what Hollywood stars believe (a fad?).
This wedding should be your only and at least, your last, so take all the time you need by postponing it for the RIGHT reasons. When you eventually do get married, it has to be the happiest day in your life.
A Year Ago
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Tags: change, commitment, marriage, reality, Relationship, settling down, wedding
November 19th, 2007 at 1:43am
Hmm.. not sure about marrieage yet.. thinking about it..
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November 19th, 2007 at 3:02am
But, also consider that even after taking the time (I was 27), and entering marriage for it to be the only in your life (15 year relationship, 9 year marriage), things happen that are beyond your control.
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November 19th, 2007 at 11:51am
Hear hear. Sometimes getting married isn’t just about the right person…It’s about the ‘right time’. You could meet the person of your dreams right now but if the both of you aren’t on the same path when it comes to settling down, time to wake up and face the painful truth.
On a personal note, I’m definitely not ready. And a million wild horses won’t be able to change my mind. So there. *sweaty palms, heart palpitating, nausea*
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November 19th, 2007 at 2:08pm
Easier say then done! What happen if her tummy keep getting bigger & bigger?
Have a nice day!
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November 19th, 2007 at 5:50pm
things will speed up… some chemistry involve.. i.e. pregnancy.
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November 19th, 2007 at 7:04pm
Marriage is a lil’ bit too far at the moment. Haha. But i do agree that one can never rush into marriage. If you don’t get well-prepared, for sure things get fucked up. They say marriage is a woman’s graveyard. I think it might be true.
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November 20th, 2007 at 11:56am
Getting married also avoids pre-marital sex. That explains why people who are of religious background would not extend their courtship for a very long time.
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November 27th, 2007 at 1:10pm
Thank you all for the comments, sorry I can’t really reply to each because I’m in KK right now on my short holiday, with limited internet access. Normal service should resume next week, but then again, I’m starting my new job. Hmm…
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November 29th, 2007 at 12:38am
If last time I wanna get married with my nearly 5-yrs r/ship with a guy… but sekarang… Aiyoh… I hardly believe a relationship sampai ke jinjang pelamin (betulkah my “jinjang”?)… Even if I’m going to be in my 30s pun, I need to secure my position first. Muahahaha~
Marriage is a long way to go as for me… Dream comes first… Muahahahah~
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December 2nd, 2007 at 12:47am
davelynne Good thinking!
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