Panic. Why? Because nothing else feels worse than the feeling of being rejected, when your women loses her attraction towards you. Next up, the dump.
If you start to feel that you’re being taken for granted, cut all communication temporarily, take yourself our of her life. She would suddenly take notice and would probably fear that you’re rejecting her, and she’ll be chasing you to figure out what’s going on.
The best way to get her attention again, is to make her jealous. Show her you have options and that you’re willing to walk away without thinking twice. Jealousy is one helluva emotion that NO woman can ever deal with it affectively.
A Year Ago
- 2007: Romantic Myths
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Tags: attraction, communication, dump, emotion, granted, jealousy, notice, rejected
June 5th, 2008 at 11:25am
“The best way to get her attention again, is to make her jealous.”
That’s really mature…
Why can’t you simply have a conversation about her seeming distant, even saying that she should act like she wants you or it’s going to go downhill. Much more effective. Or are you afraid you’ll lose that bad boy mystique?
Playing w/ people’s insecurities for attention is very junior high.
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June 5th, 2008 at 6:37pm
Monique Hey, jealousy works, stop trying to be politically correct. My argument is that a little jealousy work, you can do research and there will be proof - it’s a fact. I’m not sure on what extent of jealousy that you think it is, I didn’t mean doing it at extreme levels. Maybe I should’ve re-coined a new term - healthy jealousy.
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June 6th, 2008 at 4:26am
I don’t give a shit about being politically correct.
I just don’t think you’re promoting healthy relationships by suggesting jealousy be used as a tool for gaining someones attention/affection.
In my personal experience (not trying to judge anyone here), the people who respond to jealousy aren’t the most stable emotionally. It just doesn’t make sense to me to hang onto someone who a) isn’t showing the eagerness to be w/ me anyway and then b) jumps at me when they think my interest is somewhere else.
All I was saying.
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June 6th, 2008 at 10:44am
love guru again huh…
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June 7th, 2008 at 2:21am
ha,ha,ha,ha… its kinda funny when I read this.. so this is the story to the few days silence (which felt like AGES!)…
but when he cut communication, it wasn’t because he felt like he was taken for granted.. actually he was blardy busy meeting clients and stuck with datelines… ;-b really really..
lol.. finally when he called, you know what the first word he asked me? He laughed sheepishly and said “Why? You got scared adi ah?” and he continued laughing…
haih… lucky on the phone if not I would’ve break his neck for making me wonder, ponder, contemplating! ha,ha,ha..
healthy jealousy does work… but in the end he’s the one who got scared….
he said “I liked this song coz it really reminds me of this one girl”
then I answered “ok, but then don’t tell me about it if its about that one girl coz I don’t wanna know…” I haven’t finished talking and he quickly cut my conversation by saying “and the girl is YOU!”
LOL….. cute huh!
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June 8th, 2008 at 9:52pm
Monique OK, if it floats your boat.
zewt No la, just sharing my experience, of course, I may not be 100% accurate.
Olie
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