Don’t Have Sex too Soon with a Guy
SharePosted on 09. Oct, 2008 by Gallivanter in Gender
OK, I know the guys would probably come after me on this, but, I’m sure some guys would agree. When we are attracted to women, it’s not just the attribute and the outer beauty, we’re also smitten by the idea of the making love to you. Once you give us that chance, we will feel that we have conquered you and will no longer dream about being with you. That’s when the pursuit decelerate and eventually disappears.
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You also run the risk of being perceived as cheap and easy. If you fall for his line that he respects you and all that jazz, your value will diminish. If you want a long lasting relationship, build it on the foundation of friendship rather than lust. Get to know him better, so when the right time comes to make love, your lovemaking session will be known as “making love” rather than “having sex”.
You’re self esteem will suffer because of your succumbing to lustfulness. Make him wait, don’t make love to him within the first week of meeting the fella. Push it to several weeks at least, then you’ll see if he is earnest enough in his quest for you. Look for emotional orgasms in the beginning. That’s how I was with Mel.
Men’s first impression of women
Before I met her, I was fooling around, and astonished that some women were too easy. When I met Mel, we hit it off right from the start, and I knew that she is someone worthy of my pursuit. We had emotional orgasms galore, and though we slept together during our first several weeks, we did not make love.
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That’s significant! Be heedful of making love too soon if you want to have a relationship. Of course, do not fall for the line of men alleging that they are exhausted of holding back for the right time to make love to you. That’s bullshit! Don’t let him coerce you into giving in when you’re not emotionally prepared. If the dude can’t wait for that special moment, then he is not the man for you.
REMEMBER – The right man will always be willing to wait for the time that is right for you.
Regina Cassandra
Oct 9th, 2008
I agree. Like totally..
For me, after the guy achieved the ‘making love’ target,
then there’s no more magic to look forward to..the relationship will be ‘comfortable’..so yes gurls, wait longer!
Jemima
Oct 9th, 2008
HEAR! HEAR!
massy
Oct 9th, 2008
i’m sorry, i’m more distracted with the image LOL
Ki//joy
Oct 9th, 2008
DOOD STOP BETRAYING YOUR OWN KIND!?!?
haha tida bah. actually what you said is true.
Some women just cant help giving their all for a guy they fall for and i’m not saying that is wrong, just you never know who is real and what their motives really are. Seen it happen way too many times but some women just don’t wise up.
Men, we always want what we can’t have. So torture us hahahahaha.
chegu carol
Oct 9th, 2008
Massy!!! LOL!
Oh…so no wonder Alvin waited for years before….
Mel-C
Oct 9th, 2008
Love the honesty
Rozella
Oct 9th, 2008
Hahaha That is such a cool ad! So freaking creative!
Rozella
Oct 9th, 2008
But yeah, what you said really makes sense. It’s always best not to rush things.
d e s
Oct 9th, 2008
I can’t agree more than you, from a guy’s perspective…
I bet when more ladies read this post, the guys susah nak cari makan adee LOL…
about the Heinz advertisement, it’s HILARIOUS!
emelda
Oct 9th, 2008
Spot on love!! Yes, women out there…let him wait..it’s worth every second and time that you make him wait, it will save you from being heartbroken and feel used.
Oh yea massy, the chicken sedap kan??? LOL!!!
Gallivanter
Oct 9th, 2008
Regina Cassandra – Yup, that’s the secret, and it looks like the men are not too happy with this post, as I notice more ladies commenting. Oopsy!
Jemima –
massy – Puck puck! Now you know what we imagine when we call you chicks. LOL.
Ki//joy – It’s not betraying bah, but more like, errrrr….revealing our male instinct.
Exactly, women need to be more guarded, so they don’t get hurt and then lay siege on mankind or turn into a lesbian. 
chegu carol – See, Alvin’s a good man.
Please tell Alvin to contact me, I’ll give him my bank number. 
Mel-C – Just doing my bit for the gullible ladies who still believe in fairy tales.
Rozella – Yes, if he wants you bad enough, he’ll wait.
d e s – Well, trust me, not all ladies will heed this, as they feel that they’re in control of the men.
emelda – Correcto mundo! Better be safe than sorry.
Faiez
Oct 10th, 2008
Daniel mah friend, you sound like my 70 years old uncle lar! U don’t believe in casual sex anymore? Mel, I saluta you, babe, hehehe!
But then girls, if you’re into relationship, maybe you should wait lah. But if girls just want to have fun, then no need la waitttt… you shouldn’t feel used if you’re willing, but if you secret-secret want bf bf like that, of kos la feel hurt and used like that after kena already!
Fei
Oct 10th, 2008
hahah!! i like the heinz ad!!! its hot alright!
Olie
Oct 10th, 2008
wah.. again sounds so familiar.. ha,ha,ha,ha….. the waiting is indeed all worth it ;-p
let him wait… why the rush?
btw nice legs… ermm.. I mean chicken wings! LoLs…
Nick Phillips
Oct 10th, 2008
If I were you I’d run and hide from those hordes of men I heard was looking for you … LOL!
But I have to agree with you 100%. Makes total sense. Two thumbs and two toes up for ya buddy … hehehe …
Anu
Oct 10th, 2008
Makes a lot of sense to me!
Love the picture in the post! Good one.
emelda
Oct 10th, 2008
Faiez- Masalah dia, not all woman can take thhe “i just wanna have fun” Without having the feeling of wanting that guy to actually fall for them for real.Some still think that after bagi mesti the guy fall for them punya..
Gallivanter
Oct 10th, 2008
Faiez – Well, I’m passed the age of casual sex and ready and willing and able to live with only one person in my life. My left hand, oops, I mean Mel. Hahahaha!
Fei – Woof!
Olie – Some women rush because they think that having sex with the guy is a sign of a relationship blossoming, and that means it is a sign of committing. For the guy, it’s all about sex. Women tend to overcomplicate themselves at times. LOL.
Nick Phillips – Uh oh.
Tell ‘em I’m a pastor, and you can’t hurt pastors, against religion. And also, I’m strapped with dynamites! 
Anu – Cool.
emelda – Spot on. Most women tend to put their heart in it, when all the men are committing are their privates! LOL.
Olie
Oct 11th, 2008
Dan yeah.. that’s the mistakes women do all the time…
Mel… kesian us women kan.. women give sex for love.. men give love for sex. LoLs…
Ratu Syura
Oct 11th, 2008
in total agreement! ladies, unless you’re a willing participant, please just wait. not only are u gonna be labeled as easy, you’re also gonna have personal issues with rejection. i’ve seen it in lotsa girls and in the end they just cant seem to find a relationship cuz they’re just too negative.
clement
Oct 11th, 2008
dude.. you betray your own kind~ ha ha
kaDusMama
Oct 13th, 2008
BETULLL!!!!! I agree 100% on this..
gal shouldn’t sleep with a guy she barely knows..
Not worth to be called cheap lah..
Gallivanter
Oct 13th, 2008
Olie – That’s how women get hurt, and then go on a crusade against men. I’ve been saying this many times already, don’t blame men, blame God for giving men enough blood to run either the brain or the tontolou at a single time!
Ratu Syura – Great point.
clement – If you see it from another angle, I’m actually helping my own kind.
kaDusMama – Correcto, unless the woman is 100% sure it’s only physical, which is highly unlikely unfortunately.
marsha
Oct 13th, 2008
whoa! and this coming from a guy? whoa…..
but it’s true altho you have to discount the fact that there are some lustful women out there who think vice versa….as in ‘this guys can give me a good time. let’s make him think I am cheap and then tomorrow, end of story’. Met them before, trust me. (I am not one, tho)
Gallivanter
Oct 14th, 2008
marsha – True true, those kind of women, as long as they have their head in the right place (excuse the pun), they won’t get hurt (again, excuse the pun)
narrowband
Oct 15th, 2008
This is a good piece! Ladies of the world should read this.
sLiMGooDiE ♥
Dec 4th, 2008
I agree – if a woman wants a relationship or the possibility if one – she should wait – even though it’s really hard to make the guy you’re dating wait because they run guilt on us and imply that they won’t want to see us anymore etc etc. They make us worry and second guess ourselves but It’s all bs. If he doesn’t want to see you just because you won’t sleep with him fast it’s time to jet he’s not that into you as they say.
My question is when you finally do sleep with the guy, what makes him still interested? I’m always afraid he’ll lose interest after I sleep with him based on what ppl always say – that guys are more into the challenge than anything that comes afterwards – but then he doesn’t lose interest so what’s that about? What really keeps a guys interest after the initial phase of a relationship – and after you’ve slept with him many times already? Could it be (gasp) that he really likes/loves you? :O
Flo
Dec 22nd, 2008
i gave in only after 2 years. and that was crazy baby!! =p
Flo
Dec 22nd, 2008
u think how many guys can wait for 2 years btw? =)
Ragubalan
Dec 23rd, 2008
when i was going out with this certain girl, i didnt even think about all tat. cuz i really liked her. maybe one or two quick moments. haha. i was more interested in getting to see her and spending time to get to know her. so ladies, if a guy really genuinely likes u, he will definitely wait for u. if not, then u know lahh..