Why Men Pull Away from Relationships
SharePosted on 29. Oct, 2008 by Gallivanter in Relationship
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The staple motivation of a man from a relationship is appreciation. All men want to be looked up to, particularly by their partner. They require your blessing to feel comfy in the relationship.
You may find yourself in a position where you don’t know what to do. That’s perfectly just because men are looking for admiration even when we don’t merit it at all. We don’t get the appreciation we feel we should get, hence we pull away from the relationship. WHY? Because it gives us a false notion that somehow you are discontented with us.
Now that you know the potential grounds why we pull away. Do you find anything about us that you think you can respect and value wholeheartedly? If the answer is no, then it’s time to go separate ways.
The pressure of the daily routine usually makes you unaware of the fact that even though you admire your man you are not conveying it as much as you should, or at least as much as he thinks you should. Though men are less sensitive than women but they can feel the lack of admiration very easily.
CoFFeeFreak
Oct 29th, 2008
how about women do not know if you appreciate us or not?
currently i am sorta in the mid of “should I start something with this dude, or should I just walk away” with someone..
I don’t expect him to call me 24-7, in fact I would go bonkers. And we know you are tired… hey, we are tired too… but it would be nice to once in a while, in your spare time to reply an sms.. and when I mean an sms, I really mean ONE sms. Or return a call when you can. OR.. even if you are tired, then say so lah. Don’t just ignore the call and later say, “I was lazy.”
kinda sakit hati right? Imagine if it was reserved?
I think all rules to relationships should work both ways….
CoFFeeFreak
Oct 29th, 2008
hehehe… my humble opinion ya…
Nick Phillips
Oct 29th, 2008
Yeah, us men have feelings too you know, though we tend to try to be too macho at times to show it … LOL!
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RuehYinn
Oct 29th, 2008
As long as you are human, I think we need appreciation. We appreciate appreciation. But I have to add, many people, men or women leave relationship when their expectation unmet. That is called disappointment.
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CoFFeeFreak
Oct 29th, 2008
haiyo! what language I is talking!? I meant REVERSED!
too early in the morning lah..
Olie
Oct 29th, 2008
Yes Yes… men needs to be appreciated and admired and adored and to think that women needs to be re-assured over and over again.. Men has the same issues… ha,ha,ha…
) besides being verbal… I like to do both…
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Pulling away because merajuk women didn’t show how they appreciate or admire them in fact we do… we show it by showing our LOVE gestures! DOH! LoLs…. that’s how women appreciate men…
But hey gals.. when the men merajuk and pulls away.. let him be.. he’s the one who is blind enough to see we are talking to them true love gestures to appreciate them…
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xin
Oct 29th, 2008
i kinda agree with this, men are so…ego and at the same time manja and attention seeker!
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kaDusMama
Oct 29th, 2008
bah..how you want a women to show their appreciation?? hehee Do we women have to give a compliment like all the time or what?? Hmmmm…
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Gallivanter
Oct 30th, 2008
CoFFeeFreak – For women, I suggest you blog about that as I’m not womanly enough to know. If he doesn’t call you within a day, you go bonkers? Could it be he’s not interested? Yes, the rules do apply to both sides, but in a slightly different context.
Nick Phillips – Macho macho man! Dang it Nick, now that song is playing in my head!
RuehYinn – Appreciation is important. Touche.
CoFFeeFreak – Reversed? You have managed to confuse me!
Olie – Of course we have similar issues, we’re both human. When a men merajuk and pulls away, are you sure that his a man and not a boy?
xin – Well, we’re certainly conscious of our own identity, as opposed to our appearance.
Manja and attention seeker works both ways la. Men can’t pick signals, hence you need to be direct. We’re not embrangled like women. No codes, just say it.
kaDusMama – Not compliment, but appreciation. 2 different things.
Eleen
Nov 11th, 2008
There are loads of posts out there on what women want from relationships but not many on what MEN want. Thx for sharing this. It’s really interesting food for tot. HmmmMMm…
Gallivanter
Nov 11th, 2008
Eleen – You’re welcome.
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Nov 12th, 2008
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wise
May 16th, 2009
There are loads of posts out there on what women want from relationships but not many on what MEN want. Thx for sharing this. It?s really interesting food for tot. HmmmMMm?
Gallivanter
May 17th, 2009
wise – Hope it helped.