20 Relationship Decrees
SharePosted on 05. Dec, 2008 by Gallivanter in Relationship
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1 – We are captivated to others for a plethora of reasons, just assess your possible partner as you would a friend.
2 – We have dissimilar impressions about relationships, know each other’s beliefs.
3 – In the beginning of a relationship, don’t obscure sex with love.
4 – A relationship is not a guessing game, know your needs and verbalize.
5 – Inside and outside the relationship - common respectfulness.
6 – You’re a team of 2 unique individuals contributing to different strong points.
7 – Learn to cope with differences because it does not ruin relationships.
8 – Talk to your partner if you cannot interpret the actions, don’t just assume.
9 – Solve problems on the go, do not bottle it.
10 – Negotiate.
11 – Listen to worries and grievances without opinion.
12 – Maintain intimacy.
13 – Never go to bed angry.
14 - Apologize. We all make errors. Learn from them.
15 – Do not be fully dependent on each other, it will lead to embitterment. Freedom & privacy are crucial.
16 – Maintain self-respect and self-esteem. Learn to love yourself.
17 – Introduce new interests to keep the fire lit.
18 – Cooperate.
19 – Be spontaneous.
20 – All relationships have its ups and downs. Enjoy the good times and weather the bad.
Rozella
Dec 5th, 2008
Never go to bed angry. Amen to that! It just spoils everything.
JenJen
Dec 5th, 2008
WOW! So many ‘laws’ to remember. Ermm, how to ‘train’ the hubby to share the housework ah?
Miki Panda
Dec 5th, 2008
Yups, I agree. Another thing to add: ‘and respect each other’s beliefs’.
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Rainer Yong
Dec 5th, 2008
I mean going to bed angry is okay. As long as you do “forgive” each other in bed. ahem.
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Lisa
Dec 5th, 2008
Solve problems on the go, do not bottle it <–i agree with this…
but some guys love to let the problems go or let it be without wanting to confront it =|
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shirley aka beautiza
Dec 5th, 2008
no rules in relationship.. got to know your partner in and out.. you can figure out how to give and take.. not easy oh.. lol..that’s life
emelda
Dec 5th, 2008
Jen-jen – Man can never be “train”..PERIOD. But what you can do is ask him to help,TELL him you need help. If you expect them to be “trained”..that will never happen, Trust me!! You are lucky if that ever happen…but it may also lead you to feeling frustrated due to long nagging and training session
Hopefully by voicing out that you need help,he will slowly pick up the pace.
That’s how it was with me and Dan and im proud to say..he is picking up the pace now. Now he does the laundry and folds the clothes
and sometimes help me water my plants too. 
But erm,don’t expect your hubby to do a PERFECT job for the first few times la…hehehe.
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cheska
Dec 5th, 2008
uhm…so much stuff…can’t take them all in…brain freeze…hey, wait. i don’t need to remember those right now. i’ll just save them in my laptop for future reference with future boyfriend.
hehehehehe…
this is a nice post. wished all my ex-bfs read it before though.
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Nick Phillips
Dec 5th, 2008
The most important thing in a relationship is respect and communication
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xin
Dec 5th, 2008
i agree with this – 13 – Never go to bed angry.
should clear all the hatred before bed
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claire bennet
Dec 5th, 2008
true..true…it’s frustrating when you can’t seem to get to ur other half…4 & 8 are a must.
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Alv0808
Dec 5th, 2008
Good info..I shoul;d remember that
Gallivanter
Dec 5th, 2008
Rozella – Correcto.
JenJen – There’s no such thing as “train”, you have to ask us for help. We cannot be “trained”.
Miki Panda – Very true.
Rainer Yong – Ya man, anger sex…heck any form of sex man…woohoo!! But seriously, never go to bed angry.
Lisa – Really? That sounds more like girls, because most guys I know are always up front about it. We want a solution, and not to be heard.
shirley aka beautiza – I disagree. There are rules, else a relationship will go bust.
emelda – Yeah, as I said, you cannot “train” us nor point a gun to us. The only way we’ll get off our butts if you ask for help nicely.
cheska – Why don’t you forward it to them?
Nick Phillips – Agreed.
xin – High five!
claire bennet – Yeah, both need to work hard to foster the relationship.
Alv0808 – You can always print this off, FOC, courtesy of Gallivanter.
Olie
Dec 6th, 2008
Nicely said… easier said than done … do you do counseling ka Dan? ha,ha,ha… eii… how I wish everybody in the world thinks like you do… *konon* Lucky you Mel! hmmppfff… ;-p
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Gallivanter
Dec 8th, 2008
Olie – Well, as you said, saying and doing are two different things. I’m no saint either, still learning to be that better person for Mel.
Olie
Dec 8th, 2008
Like I said…. Lucky Mel!
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Gallivanter
Dec 9th, 2008
Olie – No la, I’m more luckier to have her.
kreatiiv
Dec 11th, 2008
Train men? They human okay not dog lol
I find this post quite educational too. And very straight to the point
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shirley aka beautiza
Dec 11th, 2008
it takes two people to make rules.. agree or disagree.. rules pointed..but when one break the rules.. the other one suffer!..
Sorry guys..but i don’t know why guys don’t understand simple rules.. okay ..this may only be my husband.. but it drive me crazy sometimes..its different when we were just couple.. rules are between me and you..but know when we are married.. they are our rules, house rules.. rules for the kids.. wow.. but luckily he is learning.. wow.. sorry sometimes we, ladies..have to nag! wah.. give me an idea of what to post next..thanx..
Gallivanter
Dec 11th, 2008
kreatiiv – Yeah, the word train is politically incorrect!
shirley aka beautiza – Point taken. It’s not the simplicity of the rules that gets to men, it’s how it’s communicated to us. Remember, we have egos, and whether feminists tells us otherwise, the male species is the more dominant one, hence, we cannot be trained, but encouraged. Nature.