Do Men Like Quiet Women?
SharePosted on 04. Jan, 2010 by Gallivanter in Gender, Men
You have got to be kidding me! A friend of mine told me about a conversation she had with a dude, when they met up for dinner with a bunch of friends. She is a very chatty by nature which is usually a sign of a confident woman.
However, this dude, after that dinner session, apparently as advice, told her the next morning, “You should learn to be like X, she’s more the quiet type. Guys like girls who are quiet.”
My jaw dangled with embarrassment on behalf of the REAL male species. Obviously this dude has confidence issues that he becomes insecure and timid around women who exhibit the slightest hint that they’re intellectual enough to carry conversations.
Women, please don’t settle for men like these, they just give real men a bad name. There is a reason why the dude’s still hunting around though eventually I’m sure he’ll catch an uncultivated woman.
On behalf of real men, the answer is NO. We like our women to be self-assured enough to hold her own conversations and be chatty instead of a recluse.
AngeLBeaR
Jan 4th, 2010
Well…I often had it from some guys that I am too ‘chatty’…hahahaha…do I care? Not. =p
Daniel Chiam
Jan 4th, 2010
AGREED!
Angel
Jan 4th, 2010
I don’t have to worry then. lol
wel
Jan 4th, 2010
I don’t care if she’s pretty as taylor swift..hehe..
Ned
Jan 4th, 2010
uuu… i LOVE this post!!
alexis
Jan 4th, 2010
I love this post too!
Clare
Jan 4th, 2010
Same goes to men. I know a guy who is so quiet whenever we meet up in a group of 4-5 that I always forgotten that he is there
sriyany
Jan 4th, 2010
I guess that dude probably likes his women to be submissive. So typical.
If I meet someone like that, I’ll make sure I’m even more talkative than I normally am
Aj
Jan 4th, 2010
i love that quiet but noisy on bed…muhahahahaha
xin
Jan 4th, 2010
LOL i like Aj’s comment! hahahha
belle
Jan 4th, 2010
em..hehehe..a guy like that should date a doll or turtle..because they dont talk and make sound…
belle
Jan 4th, 2010
em..hehehe..a guy like that should date a doll or turtle..because they dont talk and make sound…hahaha xin, ditto on u..hahaha
PinknPurpleLizard
Jan 4th, 2010
There are also men who talk too much… That one I cannot tahan… Actually ppl who talk too much and non-stop are utterly annoying noise pollution contributors. LOL
Nick Phillips
Jan 4th, 2010
I’m with you on this one. I for one wouldn’t want a blond (no offense to all you blonds out there) bimbo who can’t maintain an intelligent conversation …
sweetie~
Jan 4th, 2010
that man must have an inferiority complex….hehe
DierdreTheseira
Jan 4th, 2010
Answering the question, it depends on individual preference lah kan. Stick or curves, long hair short hair.. But this guy shouldn’t `ve generalized men like that. It’s just him! LOL.
Mimi
Jan 4th, 2010
Dan, I so agree with you!
Gallivanter
Jan 4th, 2010
AngeLBeaR – It’s a good indicator of their confidence level.
Daniel Chiam –
Angel – Nope you don’t, it’s how you separate insecurity.
wel – Errr…
Ned & alexis –
Clare – That’s the same “men” who claim they prefer quiet women.
sriyany – Yeah, I still can’t believe he generalized us men. Balls.
Aj – Noisy in bed can be misleading, because chances are, they’re faking it like those bad chinese porn flicks. Haha!
xin –
belle – A guy like that should only date his left hand.
PinknPurpleLizard – OK, but this post is not about that. It’s about some men’s perception that men prefer quiet women.
Nick Phillips – Right on!
sweetie~ – Oh yes he does, hence he’s still single. I hope he builds his confidence soon, for his sake.
DierdreTheseira – Individual preference is there, but to generalize all men like quiet women is a copout by that bugger.
Mimi –
lizee
Jan 4th, 2010
Wow…That guy needs therapy. Someone should do him a favour & direct him to this site
wenn
Jan 4th, 2010
not too quiet. just be moderate.
foongpc
Jan 5th, 2010
Quiet woman? You mean like you don’t even notice she’s there? Oh, no! I want to talk to someone, not to a wall!
tekkaus
Jan 5th, 2010
It depends on the situations.
Alv0808
Jan 5th, 2010
I’m a chatty woman..and I’m sure im not the one for your friend..hahaha..chatty woman good what?hehhehe
Stella
Jan 5th, 2010
Not too chatty, not too quiet.. As long as she’s not overdo it..might be better..heheee..:P
tihtahpah
Jan 5th, 2010
how horrific, but maybe it’s a matter of preference? maybe some just find chatty men/women unbearable and annoying. while some of us find overly quiet people pretentious. I like a ‘balanced’ person, haha, chatty but not LOUD, or quiet but not mute…
Jaclyn
Jan 6th, 2010
This sounds like a minefield of stereotypes. Chatty women = intellectual/self-assured and quiet women = dumb blonde/bimbo/recluse?
Oh please, heaven forbid that there should be people who fall out of convenient, shallow categorization of the masses.
And for that matter you’re also stereotyping men.
Gallivanter
Jan 6th, 2010
lizee – Well, I hope he matures in the long run.
wenn – Moderate is subjective. However, asking women to be quiet, as trying to change the way they are showcases the level of confidence this fella has.
foongpc – Correcto.
tekkaus – That is a sign of a confident woman, who is able to mingle accordingly and not keep hush all the time.
Alv0808 – Yes. If you can carry conversations.
Stella – I don’t think this is the case.
tihtahpah – True, but chatty for me shows confidence, being able to talk just about anything, from light chats to deep conversations.
Jaclyn – Oops, guess I pressed the wrong buttons?
Irene
Jan 6th, 2010
huh, quiet woman? that man want a YES to all woman isit? what’s the fun being quiet lah? boring wei
Olie
Jan 7th, 2010
yeah you can say that again “you have got to be kidding me!” No woman prefers a quiet man either… boooooringggggg!!
bosscat
Jan 8th, 2010
there’s one in my office… LOL
mimi
Jan 12th, 2010
if he likes the quiet type. talk to the wall then..it remains quiet forever -.-
Ragubalan
Jan 14th, 2010
if quiet, then boring lah. wth.. i would like someone who is chatty. so wont be boring and can actually chat about anything. well tell ur fren she can ignore him.
WanderingSumandak
Jan 15th, 2010
i’d say: take a hike…