Everything ends. So, does it also apply to love, that powerful attraction? If that is the case, then the strong attraction that you felt in the beginning of your relationship might just be lust. Something that developed during the heat of the moment in the throes of passion. Marriage of convenience.

Chemistry between couples brings cohesiveness to love, hence, couples with diverse ideologies can never be one as they are worlds apart and nothing will change that. Sure, everyone’s unique, but, difference should not be an obstacle to love. Love accommodates.

The lack of commitment is another recipe for a short lived affair. The lack of responsibility too. Bottomline is, love may come and go, but it’s up to us to make it stay - it takes effort.

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Alcohol, if consumed reasonably, can make sex much more energizing and fun. Self-consciousness is out the window and opinions no longer matter. You become more extroverted , though it can affect your higher cognitive process.

Alcohol can positively influence a person’s sexual arousal , if ingested moderately. It bumps off any suppressions that can make sexual encounters look unimaginable.

The relationship between sex and alcohol becomes more complicated if intemperately downed . Alcohol ingestion is known to dilute sexual reactions even after a couple of drinks. This blackball wallop is mostly experienced by women, confining her ability to be sexually aroused.

When consumed heavily, sex becomes out of the question, as the person becomes too nobbled to perform. The overall level of sexual atonement is evidently higher for non alcoholics as compared to alcoholics.

The ultimate sexual delight can only be accomplished through a sober mind and body. Still, a fistful of red or white wine should do wonders that slays invagination.

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Even I had my share of mistakes. Relationship is all about achieving the right balance, and staying off potential minefields. One wrong move and you’re blown to bits like Malaysian’s National Alliance parties (actually they made many wrong moves but that’s a different story!).

One of the screw up is to let you standards slide after making all that effort to capture her heart. Also, be yourself, don’t become another character and then show your true ogre self afterwards.

The past - what can I say? Pasts are like assholes: everybody has one and it usually stinks. Up to now, all your past relationship have failed, from hearts being broken to egos being squashed. Leave all in the past, and the same should be applied with her past. Keep them as memories and start making some new ones with her.

If you like her, don’t get too serious too fast. You’ll come off as a desperate dingo. Love takes time, there’s no such thing as love at first sight, it’s more like lust at first sight. Don’t start planning your wedding and all that jazz.

Don’t play too hard to get - it might backfire and she’ll get bored waiting around. Take the more direct approach to sweep her off her feet.

Learn to take charge - like ballroom dancing - men should lead. A dominating woman will get her way if you bow down to her commands. Don’t - she will lose respect in the long run and you will lose respect of yourself too. If she’s playing games to gain power, call her on it immediately.

The guaranteed way to blow it 100%, is to be in a relationship that’s stagnant. After six months, it’s still the same things you did when you dated together. Learn to mature as a couple, move forward, and share new experiences. This is important.

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Money - everyone has idiosyncrasies about it with money baggage too. When money talk comes up in a relationship, deal with it right away instead of putting it off, because any slowness will lead to feelings of bitterness and remorse.

Always commit some time to about money - about who pays for what and the monthly budget. Try to hash out about saving money and planning finances together. Although you think you may be right with your views, remember, it’s not only your money that’s affected. Don’t impose on how your partner spends the cash - instead of making her feel trammeled, discuss budgets openly.

Dissect your expenses, don’t be shadowy about splitting the cash for essential funds and merriment moolah, include food, petrol, toll, parking etc. This way, you become more aware of your expenditure.

Never talk down to her, if she’s not financially astute, it only diminishes her share making her uncooperative. Perhaps sounding like a broken record might work, giving her the taste of her womanly medicine, it just might work.

Whatever it is, make sure you speak to her about it, set emotions aside and work out some agreeable budgets and financial plan between yourselves.

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There will come a time in a man’s life when we need to be serious about a relationship, but that doesn’t mean you have to submit to the ways of a dominant and controlling woman, and have your tail caught between your legs.

If going for a beer, or some trivial excursion requires her permission, you’re on a short leash. Your bossy girlfriend thinks that this is a NO NO. Suddenly, you just can’t pop into a pub for a quick booze at the end of a day without facing loads of rubbish questions and harassment. That makes you stop doing it. Don’t give in to her and let her control you.

Sharing e-mail account and passwords is insane. I used to inadvertently share my passwords with my ex-girlfriend, that was a major mistake because you suffer a loss of independence. I changed my passwords, she asked, and I told her to f**k off and give me my privacy. I subsequently dumped her.

It’s a definite sign that you’re on a leash when you get some piece of news (good or bad) and your thoughts immediately turn to how she will respond when she hears it. Thoughts start running to your head and you brace yourself for her dramatic accusations and moaning. Get her a dog for Christmas and let her channel her drama towards it.

You used to get calls and text messages from friends wondering about your plans. Now, it’s no longer the case, everyone stops contacting you, assuming that you’re kept under lock and key all weekend, and they’ve given up on you. Bullshit to that. Just keep this going. They’re your friends, if your woman thinks your intention is to bonk all female friends that you come in contact with, dump your girlfriend. She’s got issues.

You don’t have to ask her permission to live your life. Tell her, but don’t ask her permission. Always defend your rights and dignity from the start. If she continues, break up with her or your life will be ruined.

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Panic. Why? Because nothing else feels worse than the feeling of being rejected, when your women loses her attraction towards you. Next up, the dump.

If you start to feel that you’re being taken for granted, cut all communication temporarily, take yourself our of her life. She would suddenly take notice and would probably fear that you’re rejecting her, and she’ll be chasing you to figure out what’s going on.

The best way to get her attention again, is to make her jealous. Show her you have options and that you’re willing to walk away without thinking twice. Jealousy is one helluva emotion that NO woman can ever deal with it affectively.

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Stop acting like you’re someone else. If a woman is not happy with herself, the man will not be happy in the relationship. So women, don’t try to lose yourself by comforting to our every desires, you will lose our respect because you’ll come off as diffident.

Being too honest in a short space of time is a repulse. You’ll appear as a clingy person who loves to charge into relationships. That’s a red flag for us men, get out!

Men subconsciously show signs of relationship evolvement. There a few levels, the initial stage is socially - talking about life in general, then emotionally - he starts hinting to you that he’s available, next, comes physical attraction - he starts complementing your physical attributes and finally comes love - where you know that he’s now deeply in it.

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DON’T be an thick-skinned prick, and fall asleep instantly after climaxing. She will think that you only wanted to bonk her and then sleep after that. If you are really sleepy, just snuggle up with her and caress her hair for a few minutes.

DON’T immediately leap out of bed (or wherever you are) and do something else. Keep your attention on her, though sometimes instead of feeling sleepy, you may feel perked up after orgasm, but stay in bed, else she will think that what took place was of superficial relevance. If you really need to do something, just stay in bed a couple of minutes at least.

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Please be realistic. We are all searching for THE one, but everyone is flawed. Of course, set your expectations high, but not too high until no one can meet them. There’s nothing wrong in searching for someone who’s accomplished and educated, but to insist that she looks like a model is not.

You will meet a lot of people that will not interest you, I know I did. Just think of it like searching for that great job, it takes a lot of effort but it will be worth it. Don’t just depend on online dating, but pick up a new hobby and find a partner who shares the same interest.

Did you know that a well-written profile will say a lot about your instead of an OTT drama profile that will attract the wrong crowd? Look at your profile through the eyes of a job hunter, i.e. resume. Ensure that it’s accurate. Do not dramatize.

One thing I used to do after getting a lady’s number, is to “interview” her on the phone - it helped me minimize contact with someone who could’ve been wrong for me. In order to find her, learn to filter out all the wrongs, and take some precautions, use your instinct, you can increase your chances of meeting the person of your dreams.

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How many times that you’ve come across a situation, when you thought things are going well with this girl, that you feel there is potential girlfriend material in her, and suddenly if peters out? While you were planning on your next move, she waited and waited and then left. Have you kept the momentum of pursuit?

Pauses in communication ravages the courtship process, so be sure to let her know that you’re thinking about her, to keep yourself in the game. Even text messages will do, as it is less intrusive than phone calls - if you’re not ready.

Confidence is key, and so is being decisive. So, always be sure of yourself, and that you’re sure of your feelings for her. If you hugged her on the last date, work the courage to kissing her on the next, keep the heat up.

Women are better than us in picking up gestural cues. Hence, you need to give some signal that you find her attractive as it is crucial. Let her catch you checking her out throughout the date, but don’t be a creep and focus your eyes on her boobies.

One more thing, don’t overdo it. It’s never a good idea to consistently bombard her with phone calls and e-mails. She needs to know that you HAVE a life outside of her. Show her that you’re someone she just can’t afford to pass.

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