Can’t Find Love?

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Do you know that your actions and hidden patterns affects your efforts of finding love or simply putting yourself out there in the love hunting market?

If you never really experienced love growing up in terms of feeling wanted, you will have a tough time expressing what you truly feel and will not know how to accept love when it’s given to you. It stems from your life with your parents.

Worst, if you were deserted in through the divorce or separation of you parents to spend alone time, you will always feel worried and fearful that you will be dumped or ignored too. Hence it clouds your judgment in opening up too soon to the wrong people without carefully thinking. You will end up clinging on people who are emotionally unavailable.

If your parents were emotionally unavailable for you, then you will feel dissociated with trust and intimacy issues. You are afraid to drop down your guard and let love in.

If your parents love to spoil you, then you become self-absorbed in yourself when you grow up, because you’re used to having things done for you and hence became inconsiderate or even demanding. You want it and you want it NOW. No one signed up with you just to baby-sit a spoiled child.

If your parents pushed you too hard and never allowed to make decisions when you were growing up, you become too serious and unresponsive as an adult. You don’t know how to lighten up and be flexible. Hence, you elude “stressed out” symptoms and other humans will leave you for someone who is more fun to be with.

In a nutshell, how your parents raised you will influence your attitude. Seek ways to remedy the situation, ask yourself why and what can you do to become a love magnet?