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Things You Should Never Say to a Woman
Speak no evil. You say something that you believe is totally inoffensive only to find that you’ve offended them. You need to use the right word at the right time, else it may result you re-enacting the fight sequence of 300, and dying a horrifying death, as Wombat loves to put it.
Here are some harmless words, but are downright catastrophic – based on my real life experiences.
“RELAX”
It might seem legitimate to say this to a woman who has lost her nerves, but it’s a moronic thing to say. You’re suggesting that there’s no reason to be upset, but in reality, you’re faulting her of being loony. Instead, just be sympathetic, and say something like, “Let’s deal with it together.”
“I LOVE YOU” (during a fight)
In films, the words “I Love You” is commonly uttered at the right moment, but, in real life, I think a woman hears these words the most during an argument when she desperately wants to get to the heart of the matter, and when men wanna stop this hokum. Merely expressing the existence of your love isn’t going to make everything swell. You can however, say these words at the end, just not at the beginning of a fight.
“UP TO YOU”
Where to eat, where to go for a holiday, what to do? Decisions decisions. For men, we think making decisions is like work without pay, so we say “Up to you” and then get mauled Itchy & Scratchy style. For women, it’s like window-shopping for possibilities. Instead, say something like, “A or B would be good, but I’m not too keen about C, what do you think?”
SILENCE
At times, you may be apprehensive of saying the wrong thing, so you keep your mouth shut. Don’t! It’s like playing football, if you’re the only one on the team, you pass the ball to yourself, with no team player – can you manage? That’s how women feel, so, say something, keep yourself in the game. After all, she’s your team mate.
To the women, have I missed out on any other words?
well agree, i doesn’t like hearing those words nor does my bf wanna hear those words et al. another word that is as piercing is “nevermind, let’s just forget about it”. mana bleh forget when you are so heated up already??? and agree on up to you, he oways make me to make his decisions over the dinner table and he will plan where to go next though. lol
Yup agreed. I have problems with RELAX (if said with a smile or smirk, definitely BAD IDEA). Silence is even worse (I’ll pick a fight just to get him talking and that’s worse isn’t it, LOL)
yerp yerp.. no “RELAX” word shall escapes from the boyfriend’s mouth when the girlfriend is in tense..
so menyakitkan hati one..
LOL i love you in a fight
that’s a good one…haha say something like that and it’s like opening the fortress to the legion of doom 
Bf and I will compete to say “Up to you” when it comes to selecting where/what to eat :p
In everything else, I wish it were that amiable.
Good one, Daniel. Here’s another:
“No, I will not buy you that dress/handphone/earrings. Use your own dang money.”
hahaa…
but the ‘i love you’ worked for me in a fight. but maybe thats cos i rarely say it so i ‘stunned’ him for a moment til he was at a lost for words
yesh! silence! keep quiet instead of saying the wrong things! =P hehehehe
sorry – there’s no point saying it..because u can’t reverse the situation…but if u dun say it..she’ll say u r not admitting being wrong. ^.^
that sorry applies to me so much!! x( hehehe
‘relax’ does not work for man also. haha.. it’s just not the right word in bad situation.
Good post~
“Yes, you look great” when said too often or in a bored, automatic and robotic voice in response to any question involving hair, dress or make up is a no-no!
Sometimes, we women truly want an honest opinion. Yes, really!
hmmmm…………. looks like we ladies are not easy to handle har? hehehe
oooh u Should also never say onething and do another thing – we hate that – we hate being taken for granted – no amount of sweet nothings is gonna solve that ;p
Connected from innerflame to fishtail to here. Lol. You dont know me but I think this post is interesting. The being silent part is really true as in he should not be.
Erina Law: Which side you on woman? We are not harder to handle our partners who if asked to do something, can procrastinate to no end and even when DEMANDED and say that it is important to us, still gets the job done with less enthusiasm than my grandmother. Nothing, I say nothing can come close to the importance of watching football!
We are no simpler or harder, just exasperatingly different.
probably UP TO YOU and I LOVE YOU (during a fight) are the most annoying thing a guy can ever say to me. UP TO You once a while is ok until you get the feeling like the woman is wearing the pants in the relationship! i think it’s good to give and take however no one expects the guy to give in all the time. Just like when guys have days when they have too many things on their mind and can’t be bothered with petty stuff like what to eat, women have days like that too.
i got 2…
First : “oh, it is the time of the month again”
when not to say it : when she is angry or upset, because tho we get a wee bit hormonal when it is the time of the month, it usually isn’t always about that. Sometimes we are genuinely upset over something.
also when saying it, should not include the rolling of eyes, cos if we see that, your eyes will really roll!
second : “Nothing” closely followed by a sigh
I hate that word! Women are intuitive creatures. We can tell if our man is having something stuck up his butt a mile away. I don’t mean literally of course. The context of which i am using this word – upset about something.
So, if you do have a problem, just admit to having a problem but you don’t want to talk about it. When you are ready you will. See… women also have hyper active imaginations… so if you don’t be honest upfront, we can think of 101 million possibilities for your distant behaviour.
Noet for the ladies : if he does say something lame like my football team lost, then think how do you want him to react when you whine about missing some sale or broke a nail or something. Apply same desired compasion and we all live happily ever after!
third : i was only looking, not like I am imagining her naked or something..
hahaha… this I don’t need to explain right? esp if the woman you are looking at is dressed more fine than the lady in your arms. my ex applied a very interesting strategy – he will look, then kiss me on my forehead or hand or whatever and say “not as good as you”. Now whether he was imagining her naked, I don’t know – but we never had issues. Esp since I liked checking out butts as well – men and women… hehehe… it was a fun hobby to have as a couple.
another note to women : sometimes we can’t always control our men. A wise uncle told me, when men stop appreciating the God made beauty (ref to women) around him, then it is time to take out the gun and shoot the fellar!
i just know I am going to get slapped for this…
PS.. sorry I so the panjang lebar ok!
hehehe….
correction… I had 3..
^__^
“I don’t know what you’re getting upset about”
“It can’t be THAT painful”
“I think we should think about having about 4-5 kids”
Relaxx.. Urgghh.. You did not just tell me to relax!! Can’t you see I’m on the verge of becoming The Hulk here, and you tell me to relax!? Okay… that’s a major NO NO for all guys out there! What’s even worse is if they say it like, “C’monnn..Relax lah!”
The other word I can’t stand being uttered when in a fight is.. “Sorry lah!”.. I know you’re not sorry if you say it that way! Guys just want us to zip it so they come up with all these words that just make it worse! The thing is, when girls are mad, it doesn’t really matter what you say, we’re not gonna cut u loose!
i’ve got to say that you’re wiser beyond your years! lol
you’re certainly good at self-marketing!! 
here is something right to say when you get home drunk:
Martin wakes up at home with a huge hangover. He forces himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees is a couple of aspirins and a glass of water on the side table.
He sits up and notices his clothing in front of him, all clean and pressed. Martin looks around the room and sees that it is in perfect order, spotless and clean.
So is the rest of the house. He takes the aspirins and notices a note on the table.
“Honey, breakfast is on the stove, I left early to go shopping. Love You!”
So he goes to the kitchen and, sure enough, there is a hot breakfast and the morning newspaper. His son is also at the table, eating. Martin asks, “Son, what happened last night?”
His son says, “Well, you came home around 3 a.m.,drunk and delirious. You broke some furniture, puked in the hallway, and gave yourself a black eye when you stumbled into the door.
Confused, Martin asks, “So, why is everything in order and so clean, and breakfast is on the table waiting for me?
His son replies, “Oh, that! Mom dragged you to the bedroom, and when she tried to take your pants off, you said, ‘Get your hands off me, b**ch! I’m married!
Moral of the Story:
Self-induced hangover… $100
Broken furniture… $2,000
Breakfast… $10
Saying the right thing to your wife when you’re drunk… PRICELESS
WHEN LIFE HANDS YOU A LEMON, BUST OUT THE TEQUILLA AND SALT
If you have respect for women and have the best intentions then the awareness of timing and knowing what to say will be developed. It’s a skill.
I think sometimes women can be too insecure and too sensitive…women around the world, I am not saying this because I do not support women…I support women. I just feel that it is important for women to nurture themselves to be strong…and part of that is knowing the difference between a man not knowing the skill yet and needs a little guidance and, a disrespectful comment.
I got one:
“Don’t you have enough shoes?”
Never call her by SOME OTHER WOMAN’S NAME.
Hmmm… I don’t know.
That would be it! Even if you don’t know, just dont say it straight like, I don’t know!! Like… “Ok where shud we go eat?”
Guy answered,”I don’t know… up to you”.
OH NOOOOOOOOO! Hahahahaha!
I mean even if he doesn’t knowwwww… he should said it like this,”Hmmm… I feel like western food tonight, but what do u want?”
Just frigging made up spmething because women, if they want A, they’ll want A no matter what you said at the end of the day, right? So… just said something rather than… I don’t know?
“How to trust something that bleeds 5 days a month and doesn’t die?” A group of guy friends have picked up this line from somewhere and have started using it wayyyy too often in my opinion… grrr
i couldn’t agree more….cool blog u have here daniel….
I hate the “up to you” phrase. Damn every thing also cincai lar, up to you lar..next time i am going to ask him, can i go f*ck with your guy frends. then he will know hehehe
Hmmm…good lah this one Gallivanter. OK. Next time me and other half fights, I want to experiment..:D
lol, i always say ‘up to u’ coldly when im pissed
Good God, there’s too many comments for me to be able to reply ‘em all, I should’ve done a few during lunch. Well, would like to thank all of you for the interesting inputs, especially the ladies, as I hope this entry helps men understand women a little more better.
He-he!You really hve this nailed man!!Spot On!
Dan,
I hope all men have the same opinion as you, man
Keep up the good work *lol*
i think for me, after an arguement the best way to cool me off is either bringing me to pets world where my anger will easily be gone in a mere seconds coz of those cuteeeee puppies or bringing me to my favourite eatery place/restaurant and being treated munching on my favourite dish!! e.g Chilli’s or Fishermen’s Market
)
“You are the most beautiful woman in the world!”
Like we’re that stupid!
lol @ sabrina’s comment…..
For previous comments, jangan marah ye cause I didn’t reply to each one.
melanie Danke!
ennie Well, practice makes perfect.
Oliee Pets world? Does that mean you have a membership there? Hehehehehe!
sabrina Well, it depends on the timing, spontaneity and sincerity, but certainly one that shouldn’t be used all the time. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder yadda yadda yadda, remember?
Yvy Yeah, her comment certainly made me smile…
The “Up to you” scenario sounds familiar… hehehe
dont plz dont say sorry and repeat the same mistakes..dont act clueless and cross the line.after crossing the line said u dont mean it
pfft!
I will abstain from commenting on this one, even though I have 20 years’ worth of comments to submit. Also due to the following reason :
1) I am typing this comment in a hotel room in KL right now while on a family vacation.
2) The missus is looking over my shoulder as I type this.
3) She has also just read my Womens’ English posting on my blog.
Help me. I am going to be a dead man.
Giddy Tiger One that must never be used.
belle Yeah, after a while, “sorry” gets stale and loses its value…
Wombat Tell her it was me that put you up to this. Wombat? You there? Wombat?
The random sigh is definitely irritating.
The silence is definitely a way to open the floodgates of hell.
And the “Whatever you say, dear”.
There’s more, of course. But then us women would be giving away trade secrets, and then who would we fight with?
how about “i dunno la.. you decide la..”. haha..
the drowmage I find sighing a rather annoying habit. Oh yes, the word “Whatever” – very the dangerous!
CincauHangus Usually, I feel the men should take the initiative on this one instead of throwing everything up in the air…
If any guy has a woman much younger as a partner, during any argument NEVER say “You are younger and know less!” or ‘ Remember, I am older… don’t think you know so much!” That makes women wonder “Why the F*** are you with me in the first place if you think I haven’t got a brain???!!!” Women at any age are smart, it’s God’s gift and built in from birth. Cheers!
Lorraine Branson The age card, yeah I agree, that sucks! Nice one Lorraine.
Yeah, here is another thing you shouldn’t say to your girlfriend:
“I still wack it to my ex-girlfriend”
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Sandy Hahahaha! Men actually say that to women? I’m hearing it for the first time!
I’m a huge party animal, but my girl isn’t. I have tried everything to get her go out with me and my friends. She may go once in awhile and then complain that I kept her out too late. She says I don’t do anything she likes and I don’t care about her. I can only be me. I take her out to dinner when she wants to eat. I see movies with her when she wants to see them. I try to take her on trips, but I’m not a bank either. We have fought about this time after time but after a year and a half, nothing has changed. Any thoughts?
Chump Have you tried speaking to her? Having a one-on-one?
WELL I AGREE WHEN A MAN GETS A WOMAN HURT HE MAY THINK HE IS HARD BUT THE EVENTAULITY MAKES THE DIFFERENET. LOVE IS LIFE.