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I Survived a Heartbreak
There’s no hard and fast rule around this. I’m sure if you google it, there’ll be boatloads of articles, counseling you to do this and to do that. Here’s my personal thought, it took me a good 2 years to get back on my feet again, and chances are, you may go through the same process. Unless you’re flaky and your relationship was based on prevarications.
Pain is requisite. Suffering on the other hand, is your choice. How long to mourn? It took me this long because I decided to renovate my heart before letting love back in, as I didn’t want to be hurting other hearts in the process.
We always look back at happier times after we break up, and somehow it’s engraved in our minds that we’ll never be happy again, and some of us, resort to booze and drugs (loads of druggies can be found in Zouk KL, so, if there is any govt official reading my blog, check out Zouk). Temporary desensitizing of the pain, doesn’t mean that it’ll go away, it’s just concealing it. I went down the path of booze for 3 months.
It’s always easier to give advise than to take it. When it happens to us, it can feel like there isn’t a single soul in the world who feels that way. I took time to heal, broke down, went through the whole process. Yes, I cried. Men cry too, they’re just too egoistic to admit. I shared my feelings, kept myself busy, and gave myself all the time I needed. Here I am, bounced back on my feet again.
The scars may remain, yes, but there’s this thing called plastic surgery. 
Remember, life’s a waste to be spending on moping around. Start to remember what it feels like to be able to smile at the world again.
Your heartbreak has made you a better man, Dan.
Thanks for this. HUGS!
who’s never had their heart broken… i think we all have our own ways to deal with it. u took 2 years some took a month etc. I think you only feel that kinda pain because you love that person the most. So in all, even through the pain, you’ve found out what love is. You’ve put yourself out there and tried your best to make the relationship work. Most people won’t even take that step in fear of commitment and being vulnerable.
*hugs*
Thank God you’re a HUMAN BEING.
what brakes us only makes us stronger…..
yea..it takes time, your heart will heal
it’s good though that you wanted that 2years break so you won’t hurt others, but that’s enough, you have to move on..heyy..there are lots and lots of fishes waiting in the sea!!
So you’re fishing again? Hehehe
Sometimes the period of mourning is proportionate to the amount of time a couple were together. It’s better to mourn and get it out of your system completely, then keep it all in and pretending everything is okay.
Oh you poor dear.
Well, there are plenty of single wonderful gorgeous women in Sabah you know *wink* Do you need a reference
This reminds me of my brother’s heartbreak. His passion now is blogging about chicks. haha! Strange but yea..mom isn’t happy about his lifestyle but I feel it’s a better ground he’s on than to be sad at home. Right now he’s got more girls than he can handle…but not one came close.
Jemima You’re welcome. I hope this entry helps mortals who are currently suffering from breakups.
tihtahpah Good points.
Broken Starfish Don’t let the red underwear and cape fool you.
Mo True, I drive a Gen2 and it auto “brakes” when I go downhill. It does make my stress levels stronger. LOL.
huei My first love told me that, “lots of fishes in the sea”, and I replied, “but your kind are near extinction”.
Che-Cheh Yes, this time, I’m using a net!
Sha Proportionate mourning – good point!
Jewell Yes, please, I’ll take all the reference I can get. LOL. Suddenly feeling the urge to go deep fishing in Sabah. Hahahaha!
well the best way to take it is – some ppl were never meant to follow you on your journey – they were there for some reason – you’ll know one day – but then healing takes time
good advice
hmm… I got out of the dating scene and took time out to heal – don’t like the whole rebound route.
Only problem now is I am content with my personal space and chilling out with my friends, am not overly keen to compromise that (read : get involved).
how ah?
Know where I can get a ‘when I want you, I call you but till then don’t bug me’ kind of relationship?
* maybe it is just fear of being brokenhearted again that is causing my unwillingness to ‘compromise’ again….. cookies for mind perhaps?
^__^
quoted :
“Know where I can get a ‘when I want you, I call you but till then don’t bug me’ kind of relationship?”
get to know my brother…lol..
Victor
Yes, heartbreak sux. And what everybody said here is true; you will come out stronger. I have!
And I’m sure you have, too! Also, I think I can help you with those references of Sabahan ladies as well! 
visithra Cool. A new perspective to look at.
coffeerox I don’t believe in rebounds either. I always tell my friends to sort their hearts out before they start to hunt again.
miccobayb Wow, your brother must be happy as he has you doing his PR work. Can do a bit for me too ah?
JACQ All the more reason for me to visit Sabah then. How does July sound? LOL
I think a human being should be like a bamboo, useful, of benefit to the community but what is more important is the humble bamboo is a survivor. Do what it takes to survive, friend!
Bengbeng I’m trying to be useful to the community by wearing my red underwear on the outside and donning a red cape. But whenever I walk pass a hospital, people give me weird stares…
2 years? i think i took 3.
July? No problem! hehe..
Love is the worst and the best thing that can happen to someone
zewt That’s fine, and I presume you are healed?
JACQ Fingers crossed.
sabrina Ain’t that the truth. Like it or not, love’s addictive.
Dan,after reading and commenting, my mind recalled how love hurts. I’ve been thinking about it so much that I’ve become jaded once again. Afraid of being emotionally attached…afraid of being vulnerable. Made me tear almost every night now :’(
However, I’m glad I’m now able to look back and feel it..rather than being in the relationship that was never meant to be.
wow Dan, 2 years?? i have a friend who took 3 years! glad you’re okay now and enjoying life. the last time we met you were really enjoying yourself!
btw, why are some men afraid of commitments after a hard breakup? if a guys likes a gurl, what’s stopping you? ;-b
i wish there is some1 out there has this mutual understanding about whats love, trust and strong relationship is all about and no its not always about sex but if its mind blowing, why not. ;-b