Quantity vs Quality – A Shift in Sexual Paradigm

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There was initially one school of thought about the frequency of sex. I believe the paradigm is shifting. The old perspective is that the lesser the better, i.e. it’s all about quality. However, I think with the progress of human sexuality over the decades, this no longer holds water.

Less frequency does not mean better quality. In fact, the more the quantity, the better the quality. In typical economics fashion, where supply and demand maintains the equilibrium of price and quantity, I think sex can no longer be attributed as the lower the frequency the better the quality.

Quantity vs Quality - Shift in Sexual Paradigm

Define quality. I bet you it does not involve experience at all. How does one gain experience and improve over time if there is less frequency? It’s like a production plant, the more you churn, the better quality you become, because you improve.

This topic came about when Mel and I had a discussion about a question of sex in our Catholic Marriage Preparation Course (CMPC). While Mel is old school in terms of quality, I think that no longer applies in current society, or at least, people who care enough about sex that they want to improve.

However, there is a certain plateau too, an apex of performance where both of you as couples must figure out else it ultimately devalues the experience of sex.

So, the new formula, is Quantity Up = Quality Up, with an apex of course. Your thoughts?